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We fight because he cheats and lies

I have been with my fiance for 6 years. But, for about the past 2 years we have been very unhappy. We have issues or problems that have been going on and yet we have really failed to bring them to each others attention except when we fight. Along with all of this, my fiance has been cheating on me for about a year and a half and has continuously lied to me about it. Continue reading

I am dating an unhappily married man

I have been dating a guy for two weeks. He is in a unhappy marriage, sleeps on the couch. He bought his wife over from another country, then she changed. We see each other many hours a day, we love each others’ company, but I am worried about the wife. He has not had sex with her for over a year, and she does not want to go back to her country. Am I going to get hurt? Continue reading

She already has a boyfriend

18 months ago I started my job. I became friends with a girl there I have a lot in common with. I instictively knew something would happen between us. We played the flirting game and after a few months we kissed. Then it calmed down but then the games started again. She already has a boyfriend and at first I had a wife but we separated last summer. Continue reading

I am in love with two women

I’m currently seeing MT and VB. MT lives near me, and VB lives 400 miles away. I met VB online last summer, and we chatted. Just before I started dating MT, I had made a comment to VB that if she lived near me that I’d date her. After MT and I had dated for several weeks, VB told me that she wanted to meet me, and if things went well, she’d move here for me. I was in shock. Continue reading

My fiancee cheated on me twice

My fiancee cheated on me twice. I’ve been dating her for seven years. A few years ago we were engaged and three weeks before the wedding I found out she was cheating. Needless to say we didn’t get married. We split up for a few months until she came running back to me. We are completely compatible, and have lived together most of the seven years. We rarely argue and enjoy the same things. Continue reading

He has another woman on the internet

I’m 23 and he is 25, we have been together for 2 years. Recently he has been going into chat rooms on the internet. At first it didn’t bother because I figured that it was harmless. He would sign on and then sign off. Now it I’ve observed that he has been more and more… and that there is one female that he converses with. It has even gone so far as talking on the phone. Continue reading

Falling for a guy who has a girlfriend

About half a year ago, I noticed that a guy in my dance class was doing the stare-game with me: whenever I would (accidentally) look in his direction, he would turn his head away pretending nothing happened, then the same thing would happen minutes later and that for weeks. It was only then that I noticed him, before that he didn’t really strike my attention. Continue reading

He cheated and now wants me back

I am 26 years old and my boyfriend just ended our 4 year relationship because he was “confused”. I was devastated and at the time had a feeling it was another girl. He denied it and said he was just confused and needed time. Days after our break up, I found out that in fact there was someone else. He says the reason he did what he did was because he hadn’t been happy in our relationship. Continue reading

I am attracted to another guy

I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year. Recently I met this guy. Well, I really like this guy and I think he likes me too. I don’t know what to do because I really love my boyfriend but we argue so much and we don’t get along half the time. I don’t know if I should stay with my boyfriend and try to work things out or if I should give this other guy a chance? Continue reading

Married and attracted to someone else

I am 40 and been with my wife for 20 years. We have two young sons. We have had issues over the years and now find that in many ways we live separate lives. I have never been unfaithful or met anyone who I would even have considered leaving my wife for, until recently. Now I feel torn apart between doing the right thing and following strong feelings… Continue reading

Torn between my wife and girlfriend

My girlfriend of 4 years is demanding I divorce my wife of 5 years or else we are through. I am torn because my wife is a lovely person but the years of me having fun have doubted my ability to enjoy my wife’s company. I’m torn between my wife and my girlfriend. I feel under pressure to end my marriage because I fear losing my girlfriend who incidentally is more receptive to love making than my wife. Continue reading

I am in love with a married man

I’m 46 and in love with a married man. I’ve been in love with him since I was 18. No one has ever compared to him. He has declared his feelings in the most passionate and sincere manner. If I hadn’t known him so long and so well I wouldn’t have believed it. Of course, his marriage complicates things. I’m not interested in an affair, nor am I interested in breaking up his marriage. Continue reading

My boyfriend cheated on me

I have been with my boyfriend for only about 2 months. We dated last year and he cheated on me. He says this time it won’t happen again because he feels different for me than last year. My question is how can I keep him totally devoted to me and in love with me? Continue reading

Can our marriage overcome infidelity?

I have been married for 29 years. Over 2 years ago I had an affair as I felt that I was unable to get the love I wanted in my marriage. Although I didn’t start out to deliberately do this, it continued for about a year and a half. I kept a journal to process my feelings and my husband found the journal a few weeks ago. Our relationship has been shaky for years, but we both still love each other. Continue reading

She was unfaithful. How can I trust again?

I have been in a serious relationship with a girl for over two years now. Last year I went overseas for a few months by myself to work. While I was there she couldn’t handle the loneliness and she met another guy. I was devastated when I found out I went home right away. There was no recovery in sight. I moved back to my home town where my family was to try and recollect myself. Continue reading

The feeling of being in love is gone

I’m 24 and I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years. When we met we melted into each others arms and haven’t lost touch with each others’ love until a month ago. He made a mistake and I took time apart but eventually forgave. Now I just don’t have that feeling anymore. The feeling of being in love is gone. Every now and then I catch a spark but it never stays. How can I turn that spark into a flame again? Continue reading

My husband cheated. Can I trust him again?

I am 52 and my husband is 50. We have been together for almost 30 years. My husband cheated. Can I ever trust him again? I recently discovered that he has been involved with another woman for almost a year. He says that he doesn’t know why it started except that he was feeling old and a younger (40) woman showed interest in him. He says he never meant for me to be hurt and that he never thought of us at the same time. Continue reading

He has a reputation as a womanizer

I have been with my partner for about 9 months now. He has a reputation as a womanizer, and of late has been showing me this side of his personality. It started with letters from ex-girlfriends that were descriptive of things that they would do to each other, and just today I found that he has sent another girl another suggestive email. Continue reading

He gets voicemails from other women

I have recently gotten engaged after 4 years together with my boyfriend. I am happy, but I’ve found certain things that I think are inappropriate in a relationship. I’ve heard his voicemails and some have been other women. I don’t usually jump to conclusions, but now that I am engaged, I seem to take the relationship a little more serious. Continue reading

In love with a married man

I’ve been messing around with this married guy for sometime now. I feel so bad but I think I’m falling in love with him. I don’t want to tell him because I’m afraid I’ll scare him away. He’s always so nice to me and it’s not just because of sex because it doesn’t happen all that often. He has five boys with his wife — I have 2 boys. I know I’m not going to get anywhere with this. Continue reading

He is married but we are soulmates

I have been divorced for nine years. Last week I received a “you probably don’t remember me” e-mail from a guy that I went to my eighth grade dance with. I responded, shocked that he remembered. He told me that he had tried several times in the past to contact me. It has been nineteen years since I have seen or talked to him. He lives in New York and I am in Texas. Continue reading

Can a marriage survive lying and cheating?

I have been with my husband for six years. For the past two years we have been very unhappy. It’s been like a wall has grown between us. We have had ongoing issues that we avoided addressing — except in fights. In addition, it turns out he had been cheating on me for a year and continuously lied about it. I found bits of evidence, but each time I confronted him, he said that he was not seeing her. I finally caught him and he is now being honest about it. Continue reading

Married mother has seven year itch

I have been married for seven years. My husband and I have two kids. I have a significant problem. You could say I’m a married mother with the seven year itch. I am extremely attracted to another man who possesses those qualities that I often criticize my husband for not having — spontaneous, quick witted, fun, exciting — all the things that life is not always about on a daily basis. Continue reading