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Confused over what our separation means

Two weeks have passed since my boyfriend left and I have been trying to focus more on myself and the things I left aside while I was with him, although in the top of my head are the big questions. What should I expect from all this? Should I try to forget him? Is this a testing period or a signal that we are not meant to be together? Continue reading

He cannot commit but cannot break up

I have been together for eight months with my boyfriend, and he is all of what I want in a man. I am devoted to him. He says that no one in the world could love him or understand him more than I do. Everything was going smoothly until we had a talk about marriage. He started to fear our commitment but he also cannot break up. It seems that he no longer knows what to do or want. Continue reading

My soulmate is pushing me away

My boyfriend and I recently broke up. He told me he loves me, but there is so much going on in his life that he “just needs to be alone right now.” When we were together, he was scared about uncertainty of the future. We’ve seen each other since the breakup and when we are together he acts like we’re still dating. But after all is said and done, he’s still confused and needs time. Continue reading

Why can’t he say he loves me?

I’m involved with a man I’ve known for decades. We met at my first job, fell madly in love with each other but were young, stubborn, jealous and foolish and things just didn’t work out. When we met, his high school sweetheart threatened to kill herself when he started dating me. The pressure was terrible and I broke it off with him and he became angry. Continue reading

He will not commit and I feel rejected

We’ve been together for a year and a half. My boyfriend is very calculating, and motivated about his personal and career goals. Yet, when I ask about his plans for us, he has none. He just says we have a future together. I would like us to work towards an engagement, but he won’t commit. He says he’s not ready. What can I do? I can’t help to feel rejected. Continue reading

Afraid to take the next step

I am in a relationship of about a year and I have fallen head over heals in love with this man. I know he loves me as much as I love him. But we have gotten to the point that we need to take another step in our relationship. He was in a very bad relationship before the woman was very self centered. We recently discussed me moving in with him but he is frightened. Continue reading

She does not seem committed

I have been dating a wonderful woman exclusively for over 3 years. We have much in common. She is a nice, intelligent, attractive, down-to-earth person who is very health conscious and fun. The only problem is she has never given me any indication through her actions she wants a more committed relationship, though she verbally states she does. She just doe not seem committed. Continue reading

My boyfriend is afraid of marriage

I have been involved in a relationship for close to 3 years. He is divorced from a marriage that lasted 5 years. I love him so much and he feels the same about me. We click on all levels and we have from the start. But he is a afraid of marriage. It’s hard for me to not think of him as the man I am going to spend the rest of my life with. However, he has fears about remarrying. Continue reading

My boyfriend is non-committal

I am a female in a situation and need some objective clarity. I have been in a predominantly physical relationship with someone for a year. Lately, we have been seeing each other more frequently and he has been introducing me to friends. But my boyfriend is non-committal. I would like to see things progress deeper with him, but I am very cautious because I don’t think he’s wired that way. Continue reading

My boyfriend will not commit

I started this wonderful relationship with this guy and he has a lot of the qualities that I look for in a guy. He keeps getting scared, and he will not commit. We decided to be exclusive with each other, we were both so happy with one another. Then this week things looked down he called me and told me that he liked me a lot but he wasn’t sure what he wanted. He says he feels like he wants it then he doesn’t. Continue reading

What he says and does are totally different

I have been in a new relationship for two months. When we started seeing each other and discussing what we both wanted, what he says and what he does are two totally different things. His actions are in my favor, for example, he says he never been to affectionate but he’s always touching me and holding my hand and stuff like that. Continue reading

We had a wicked fight

I met my soulmate. We have been together nearly three years and have a baby boy. We have had several issues and we are finally stable in our new home. She wanted to be married from the start especially after the baby. We planned several times but timing and finances has not allowed us a level of comfort to be married. She currently is packing from a wicked fight. Continue reading

My partner wants his freedom

I have had a wonderful, supportive, joy-filled relationship with my partner for the past 5 years. We also have a gorgeous three year old daughter. But he wants his freedom. My partner recently said that though he believes I am the love of his life, he feels he is “missing out” by being in a committed relationship. He wants to travel, build his career as a musician and possibly explore other relationships. Continue reading

Should I dump him if he will not commit?

I got divorced 3 years ago after 23 years of marriage. Now involved with a guy divorced after 28 years of marriage. He has been living with me for three months. I thought we were in committed relationship. But he told me last week, he could not commit to forever, would probably never get married again, plans on keeping his apartment for indefinite period. Continue reading

She keeps secrets. I want the truth

My lady friend seems to occasionally feel a need for mystery. She will tell me parts of something but not all. An example: one morning she informed me that she would not be available that night because of a meeting of her committee group. I asked where the meeting was and she said at a committee member’s home but wouldn’t say who. Continue reading

How do I get him to commit?

My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for 2 years and both know I want to share the rest of my life with him. He’s the best person I’ve ever known, but his first wife burned him so much on relationships that he is terrified of committing to me. He wants us to stay together and see what happens, but sometimes I feel totally out of control. Continue reading

He does not want to get married

My boyfriend and I are both 30. After dating for 4 years, surviving 2 years of long distance, and living together for the past 9 months, I am becoming more and more focused on marriage and (eventually) starting a family. My boyfriend agrees that he wants a family some day, but his reaction to marriage is not what I’d hoped. Continue reading

I am engaged but met someone else

I am 19, and I have been together with my fiance for almost 5 years. About 6 months ago I met someone else with whom I feel a much deeper connection. I love my fiance dearly, and I do not want to hurt her again, and I am more than willing to stay by her side, and I do believe that we will both be happy that way. However, the other person is much more suited to me. Continue reading

She is not ready for anything long term

I’ve been chasing the same girl for four years ever since I met her. We have always been close, but about 4 months ago I told her that I loved her. I do love her. There’s no question about it. We had been back in forth with liking each other about 6 months before that, but I told her all the reasons why I knew I loved her and she finally realized that she loves me too. Continue reading

I have a problem with commitment

I am a 31 year old lady. Have confidence in myself and other people see me as an outgoing, strong character and pleasing person. I have one problem though and that is commitment to my relationships. I have been in 5 relationships but after the first couple of months I get bored, become unfaithful and then find a way to get out of the relationship. Continue reading

He cannot say he loves me

I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years. Within two months he said he wanted to say he loved me but wasn’t sure if he really knew that early in. He said he had told previous girlfriends that he loved them and ended up regretting it. We had a conversation about how neither of us truly knew what love meant at the time and agreed that it was best for us not to say it yet. Continue reading

Commitment is more than a word

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. Both of us are very committed to the relationship. We practically live together. I am the more emotional, affectionate, romantic. He is more of a loner, independent and less affectionate.¬†We’ve made it great this far, despite our differences. But I feel our relationship isn’t progressing. He doesn’t speak of our future together. I ask about plans for us, he just says we have a future together. Continue reading