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She seems too needy and dependent

I am 29 years old, have been with the same girl for 8 years, married for the last 3 years, no children. She is the only serious relationship that I have had. I have had anxiety for most of my life, but my anxiety levels often skyrocket when we are together, as she generally seems very dependent on me. I feel she is too needy and it makes me feel tense around her. Continue reading

We are haunted by past sexual abuse

My love and I have been together going on to 3 years. We are haunted by past sexual abuse. My girlfriend as a child was molested. Her following relationships consisted of unwanted sex and when she was married she believed it was a duty to perform. Once after the marriage she was used once again by someone else. Then came me. Everything seemed OK during the “honeymoon stage” but then things changed. Continue reading

My boyfriend fears trusting anyone

My situation is this: I have been living with my boyfriend for over a year and still have problems communicating with him. I think a lot of it stems from the fact that his mother left his family for another man when he was in his teens. My boyfriend fears trusting anyone. He’s told me flat out that he doesn’t trust anyone “because everyone ends up hurting you anyway” and he never, ever opens up about how he feels. Continue reading

I want to stop feeling angry and jealous

I recently married a wonderful man. I have two problems that are really interfering in my marriage. Jealousy and anger. I cringe every time he mentions a female’s name and the thing is I trust him entirely but I don’t trust the women. I was engaged to a different man many years ago and he cheated on me so unfortunately I have brought that into this relationship. Continue reading

How can I stop thinking about my ex?

I was in a relationship for 6 years with it ending VERY badly. We have always had problems. He put his family over me EVERY time. I had enough and broke it off. I found someone else which we were more friends than anything. Well so he came back crawling, crying asking me to marry him and it was just pitiful. Well I gave in and agreed to take him back. Continue reading

I sabotage all my relationships

Every time I feel that I am close to someone or someone wants to get close to me, I panic and do something to let them down. I sabotage all my relationships. Now there is someone I like, but I keep hurting him as much I want to be with him. In the past I’ve never been hurt, and my favorite joy was to keep hurting people I knew they wanted me for a relationship, and play with their feelings. What should I do? Continue reading

My feelings of being in love seem to fade away

What does it mean if a guy has intense feelings of love for someone early on in a relationship (the kind of feelings that make you blurt out “I love you” or “I want to marry you” without even thinking… and make you feel like this is “the one”), but after a short time (probably about the time I start to feel secure with a person) those feelings seem to die down for no apparent reason? Continue reading

I was in an abusive relationship

I was in an emotionally and verbally abusive marriage for 14 years. Been divorced for 2 years. I know that I’m co-dependent because of previous abuse. I dream of a loving caring man to be in mine and my childrens lives. I’m scared because of the past. Want to leave it behind, but I don’t know how! Don’t want to make the same mistakes again. Continue reading

Will the mistrust ever go away?

I think my problem has to do with my childhood. My parents were alcoholics so us six kids raised ourselves pretty much! So from the get go I felt abandoned and as I started dating I mistrusted anyone and everyone. I was let down as a child and I expected that with everyone. Will my mistrust in love ever go away? What I do is this. Before someone hurts me I will leave the other person. And I think in the long run I hurt myself. Continue reading

I want marriage but he does not

My boyfriend and I have been living together for 4 years and it is a truly great relationship. I would like the commitment of marriage, but he does not. This difference of opinion has raised the question of what really is a committed relationship? I believe that he and I both have different expectations of what makes up a true commitment. Continue reading