What's this relationship quiz really asking?
The goal of this quiz is to get you to start reflecting upon your beliefs about what truly makes a relationship great. And to recognize if some of your beliefs may actually be getting in your way making it harder for you to experience lasting happiness in a relationship.
As we all know, lasting love is rare these days. Sadly, the divorce rate is still high. And if truthful, most couples will admit they are far less happy than they truly want to be. So, are relationships even ones that start off great simply doomed to settle into an unhappy or stuck place?
Absolutely not! It does not have to be that way at all. Far too many couples end up needlessly suffering or splitting up. Regardless of how many of your answers matched ours, if you want to have a truly great relationship, consider the following...
Finding a relationship that feels great is just a first step. You also need to know how to keep it feeling great over time. All relationships get tested. Lasting love and happiness does not just "happen" all by itself. It is not a matter of "luck" or finding the "right" person.
What is the key to lasting love?
The key to lasting happiness in love is having the right tools and strategies to keep an intimate partnership feeling great especially when face the inevitable differences or challenges that arise. The road to "happily ever after" has many bumps along the way. You need to know how to stay on track together.
The final question on the quiz is taken from research studies on couples who share lasting happiness compared to those who suffer or split up. A popular belief is that happy couples don't have as many issues or differences to deal with. But research breaks this myth.
It is a false myth that happy couples have fewer issues to resolve. All couples have to deal with riffs, communication glitches, times of being out of synch, and differences in what they want or need — and when they want it.
Couples who stay happy in love have learned effective strategies to resolve such issues, work through differences, quickly repair any riffs, and keep satisfaction alive.
Few of us enter adult relationships knowing the best strategies to succeed. Does this surprise you? Look at the evidence. That's why our divorce rate is so high. That's why so many couples are far less happy than they yearn to be.
The good news is that we can all learn new and better strategies. If you want to succeed in relationship, it is a good idea to admit to yourself that you may need to learn something new then commit to learning it.
Get the right tools, strategies & relationship help
With the right relationship tools you can build and sustain a lasting great relationship.
With the right communication strategies you can improve a relationship that is in trouble or less satisfying than you want it to be.
And at the right couples retreat you can save a marriage stuck for years or in risk divorce.
We invite you to explore the many relationship help resources on this site. And you are most welcome to attend a marriage retreat with John Grey, PhD.
The tools and strategies that John offers have proven effective in over 25 years of helping couples transform their relationships in his intensive marriage retreats. They are based in neuroscience and attachment research that study the brain and how couples emotionally bond.
Whether you are learning these from one of his self-help books, or being coached in person by working with John at a couples retreat, know that you are getting the best help available to have the loving relationship you truly desire.