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He became very closed and distant

I am about to marry the man I thought was my “soulmate.” For the first year, he was amazing. He was everything I could have hoped for in a man, then we became engaged and he pulled the old “bait and switch.” He became very closed and distant. He seems so defensive if I try to talk to him about my feelings. Continue reading

He never spends time with me

I’m 18 years old and I’ve been with my fiance for almost 4 years. We both still live with our parents. He spends most of his time with his friends. I have to practically beg him to spend time with me. When he does it’s only once or twice a week, and he never calls. He keeps promising me he’ll spend more time with me and he’ll get better for about a week and then stops again. Continue reading

My boyfriend fears trusting anyone

My situation is this: I have been living with my boyfriend for over a year and still have problems communicating with him. I think a lot of it stems from the fact that his mother left his family for another man when he was in his teens. My boyfriend fears trusting anyone. He’s told me flat out that he doesn’t trust anyone “because everyone ends up hurting you anyway” and he never, ever opens up about how he feels. Continue reading

He will not say I love you

I have been dating a man for the last five months. We are both single parents. He is a very affectionate, considerate man. We spend 5 days out of the week together and have been for the last 6 months. The problem is that as loving as he is he won’t verbalize any of his emotions. Never has he ever told me how he feels about me or where he sees this relationship going. Continue reading

I need more than sex from him

I am female 63 widowed and in love with a 60 yr. divorced male. We have been together for seven months. We have tremendous passion for each other, we have been in a long distance relationship in which he has driven over 6000 miles to be with me. I loved him from the start and though he shows he is devoted to me he says he does not love me, will not marry or live with me. Continue reading

I do not feel loved or important

I don’t feel loved or important to my boyfriend. I feel more like I am an annoying burden that he has to put up with. Friends have told me that he isn’t treating me right. I know I still love him, and although that isn’t going to change, I don’t know if it is enough to stay with him or whether that is even a good idea. Continue reading

On and off long-distance relationship

I have been in an on and off long-distance relationship for 5 1/2 years. Should I move on or hang in here for a little while longer? When I ask him does he want to break it off, he gets upset, and says, whatever! And he asks why did I ever come back into his life anyway, if I was going to leave again. I’m confused… Continue reading

He is depressed, withdraws, pushes me away

The man I’ve been with for 2 years suffers from depression, and it makes him withdraw from me at times. I of course, want closeness, and while I think HE does, the opposite messages are sent to me. It feels like a knife in my heart, and it hurts me. He pulls me close to him, and pushes me away all the time, there is not much consistency with how I am treated. Continue reading

He is not communicating

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 6 months. He was living with me for about 2 and then he moved back home with his mom. Now he won’t come and see me, I haven’t seen him in 3 weeks and we don’t even talk. He hasn’t broken up with me and is just keeping me in limbo. I don’t want to chase after him but I don’t know what to do. Continue reading

He does not spend enough time with me

I’ve been seeing a man for approximately 7 months. I am having issues as to whether I should end this relationship or continue. I feel he has always has excuses to not spend time with me. I just wish he would fight as hard to see me than he does to not. He tells me that he has been alone for so long that he enjoys his time to himself. Continue reading

She is very distant

I’ve been dating my girlfriend about 8 months and we’re starting to have troubles. She is very distant. Lately she seems like she doesn’t want to do anything anymore. She claims that “she doesn’t know who I am” anymore, that she feels “obligated to spend entire weekends with me.” I’ve asked her if she just wants to break up, but she seems at least somewhat determined to stay together. Continue reading

We have uncomfortable, awkward silences

We have been together for almost three years. We have uncomfortable, awkward silences, when nothing is said. We do not have a problem talking about subjects, or expressing ourselves, or opening up; it is the simple matter of the topic of conversing. I find that it has become increasingly troublesome to find topics of conversation. Continue reading

We have never been able to communicate

I was married at 19. I am now 28 been married 9 years, although lately decided I didn’t want to feel like a doormat no longer so changed myself into a person I love. My problem is my husband. We never have been able to communicate and I love to talk. He walks away when I try to tell him how I’m feeling. He does not like doing anything, such as walks or family functions. Continue reading

How can I get him to open up?

My husband and I have now been married just under two years and have come to a major halt in our relationship. My question is how do I get him to open up? For the last year we’ve been constantly arguing over endless differences. Now when I bring up anything, he says,”Sorry, your right” just to get me to shut up. I feel that our problems need to be discussed, but no matter how I word it, he feels blamed, and just won’t talk anymore. Continue reading

We do not spend enough time together

I am in a 2 year relationship w/a man I was engaged to 10 years ago. After I broke our engagement he married and had kids and I remained very single, sometimes in unhealthy relationships. We found each other again by accident, and this new relationship was better than ever, until an accident caused him to be out of work for almost a year. Continue reading

He is taking me for granted

I have been divorced from my ex-husband for about 5 years. We decided to give it another try and have been back together for 5 months. A lot of things have changed and gotten better, but a lot has not. It just seems lessons he said he has learned have fallen aside once again. He seems to be taking things for granted again falling into old ways. Continue reading

He will not go to counseling

My husband and I have been married for 20 years. For years I chose to work nights so I could stay at home and raise our two girls. Somehow through it all my husband and I have grown so far apart… I want counseling to help us better communicate. He says “no counseling”… I feel we won’t make it if he doesn’t consider this…. Continue reading

He is being very distant

I’m 19 and my boyfriend’s 20. He is a very closed off person and is being VERY distant towards me lately. He doesn’t call me often and rarely asks to see me. I love him very much and am getting extremely worried about his behavior (or lack of it). What should I do? Continue reading

We have a communication break-down

I am writing you once again to ask for some love advice. I previously wrote you about a relationship that seemed to be moving everywhere but up. In fact it was crashing in flames. I accepted the decision that the love of my life no longer wanted to be with me. So I cut off all the communicating that I was doing. No more phone calls, letters, postcards, …nothing. Continue reading

He cannot say he loves me

I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years. Within two months he said he wanted to say he loved me but wasn’t sure if he really knew that early in. He said he had told previous girlfriends that he loved them and ended up regretting it. We had a conversation about how neither of us truly knew what love meant at the time and agreed that it was best for us not to say it yet. Continue reading