He doesn’t talk and runs away

When we have problems small or big he runs from talking about them and says it’s not working for him and tries to leave me. Then as we talk more I hear about the old problems and he blames that on why we have any problems, which have nothing to do with the subject we are arguing about. Continue reading

Our differences get in the way of being happy

What do you do when your partner and you are just too different? We are getting into fights over our differences, and spending more time unhappy together than we are enjoying each other’s company. It seems like our differences are getting in the way of being happy together. Continue reading

We are soulmates, but can we make it?

Five years ago I met my soulmate. We are soulmates, but can we make it? I love him so much, he is the greatest guy I have ever known and at times I feel like I cannot live without him. But when he gets stressed I get put on the back burner and he tells me he just needs time to himself. He later explains it by saying that he can’t take the stress of a relationship at the same time with the other stresses he is dealing with. Continue reading

I apologized but she will not forgive and forget

My partner and I have been married for six months. The other day l said something very stupid which upset her. I apologized right away and she said she forgave me. But then she got mad again. I even promised to make it up to her by doing something she really likes together. But now she says we must do this every time — or she wont forgive me. Continue reading

He drinks and cannot control his anger

I have been in a relationship with a man for 6 years. Since I’ve been living with him, I’m finding a side of him that I do not like. He has bouts of uncontrollable anger over trivial things, and he blames me for everything that goes wrong in his life and yells and screams at me about it. He even punched a hole in our bedroom door. Also, he drinks on a daily basis. Continue reading

We need to stop arguing and getting defensive

I have been with my boyfriend 7 months now. I truly believe he is my best friend and soulmate yet we have trouble resolving issues as quickly as we’d like to or as easily. In the last 4 months, we have been arguing about issues, some more important then others. We need to stop arguing and getting defensive. How do we bring up issues without getting defensive? Continue reading

My boyfriend suddenly changed

I need some explanation to what happened in my most recent relationship. We really hit it off and before long, we really felt like were really meant for each other. In a couple instances he mentioned a future together and though I understand that these are not promises, many times, I at least took these utterances to heart that he really loved me that much. Then my boyfriend suddenly changed. Continue reading

I feel used and unappreciated

We have been together for almost 20 years now. We have adopted 2 children and I have one step child. My husband has a powerful position and I am a stay at home mom. I get the feeling that staying at home is not good enough for him. My work is not valued at all. I find myself feeling used, not appreciated at all so I then back off and don’t do things that I would normally do. Continue reading

He throws temper tantrums

I have a well paying job at a local hospital. My boyfriend does not work. He has little motivation. He has double standards. I have desperately tried to discuss every possible issue with him and he listens but he doesn’t talk back and share his feelings. He can also get angry and throw a temper tantrum. Continue reading

We argue and he flies into a rage

It seems that I can do nothing to please my love. I love this man tremendously, and I know that he loves me very much too. We would like to get married next year and start a family, but this pattern is beginning to scare me. When we argue, he so easily flies into a rage and shouts obscenities. He seems controlling and if he doesn’t get what he wants he explodes. Continue reading

We had a stupid fight

I have been with my boyfriend for a year. Four days ago we had a stupid fight, which I admit I overreacted a lot. When he left he said he forgave me, until the next day when we talked, I knew he was still mad. I asked him if he wanted time away from me (thinking he’d say no) and he said yes. He said that I have him on a leash, and that he never gets to hang out with his friends. Continue reading

He was abusive. Should I stay?

About 3 months ago, I met a wonderful man. I am so in love with him that it scares me to be so vulnerable… which is why this threw me so badly: A week ago, we went to a party (which I had a weird gut feeling about) with neighbors of his. At the party, he didn’t have much to drink, but quickly became confused, forgetful and belligerent. Continue reading

We had a wicked fight

I met my soulmate. We have been together nearly three years and have a baby boy. We have had several issues and we are finally stable in our new home. She wanted to be married from the start especially after the baby. We planned several times but timing and finances has not allowed us a level of comfort to be married. She currently is packing from a wicked fight. Continue reading

Our fights are driving us apart

My boyfriend and I fight a lot. Our fights are driving us apart. And it’s always because of the same reasons. I get very jealous when he spends his time with other women, even though I know they are just friends. And he reacts very badly when he gets mad at me for being jealous. His first reaction is always to yell and name call and then apologize later. Continue reading

How can I get him to open up?

My husband and I have now been married just under two years and have come to a major halt in our relationship. My question is how do I get him to open up? For the last year we’ve been constantly arguing over endless differences. Now when I bring up anything, he says,”Sorry, your right” just to get me to shut up. I feel that our problems need to be discussed, but no matter how I word it, he feels blamed, and just won’t talk anymore. Continue reading

How do we stop the constant fighting?

I’ve been with the same girl for 4 and a half years. We have lived together for the past 2 years. The past few months we have been fighting more and struggling to get along together, we always seem to find small things about each other that irritate us. What do you suggest we do to stop the constant fighting? Continue reading

We fight and build up a wall

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years, but lately we’ve been arguing a lot. Even on the phone we tend to argue about small, petty things. I feel like he takes a lot of anger out on me and I always seem to get my feelings hurt. I’ve tried to open up the communication lines but he has a tendency to build up a wall (as well as me) and we fight all over again. What should I do? Continue reading

He slams doors and twists what I say

My partner and I have been together for 6 years. Over the last year I have started to feel that I have to tip-toe all the time and be so aware of what I say. He is a “devils advocate” and will twist and turn whatever I say. A comment I might make about a TV program or a friend can all of the sudden be blown out of context. Continue reading

Arguing over endless small differences

My partner and I have been married six months. The other day I said something which upset her. When I apologized she said she forgave me. But then she was mad again. In many ways, she is very different from me. Lately we’ve been arguing over what seems like endless small differences. She takes things out of proportion, is overly serious and far too emotional. I’d like her to lighten up. Continue reading

Fighting and arguments tearing marriage apart

My husband and I have been married for two years now. I truly believe he is my best friend and soulmate. But lately we’ve been arguing a lot. Even on the phone we tend to argue about small, petty things. I feel like he takes a lot of anger out on me and I always seem to get my feelings hurt. Continue reading