We offer two different types of intensive marriage retreats, or couples retreats. These two programs are:
All the details about both programs are presented below, including logistical information, their different costs, and how to schedule each type of retreat.
We are located in the friendly small town of Sebastopol in Sonoma County, California, which is in the northern part of the San Francisco Bay Area.
The Private Marriage Retreat with John can be conducted either in person or virtually. The Special Couples Retreat with Hazal is only conducted virtually.
In choosing, know that contrary to our expectations (and probably yours), the virtual format is generally more effective than working in person. Read more →
Program One — The Private Marriage Retreat
In the Private Marriage Retreat program individual couples get fully-customized coaching and help from John Grey, PhD.
This 3 or 4 day long intensive program provides couples clarity and a profound depth of positive transformation and change.
It is by far in the highest demand by partners who are facing major issues or distress and want to take significant steps in making meaningful improvements in their relationship.
The standard day in this program is two 3-hour sessions with a break between. Retreats are 3 to 4 standard days long (total of 18 to 24 hours of work). The flexibility of working virtually also enables you to spread out these 3-hour sessions over more days.
The most common intensive marriage retreat program with John is 3 standard days long. This provides the time for most couples to learn the tools they need, resolve issues, and make major positive shifts in how they feel — restoring trust, intimacy, hope, connection — and confidence going forward with effective communication tools and strategies.
Many couples who have the need, resources, or interest opt to do a 4-day retreat. The added 6 hours helps achieve deeper results in mastering their new, positive communication tools. The added time can also help more deeply heal old emotional wounds and shift into a place of trust and re-connection.
John always recommends a 4-day length if a couple is suffering from past affairs, traumas, or significant emotional wounds; if someone’s deeply ambivalent about staying married; or if there are multiple significant issues.
There is also powerful preparatory work that primes you before your retreat with John begins. Many couples have reported this work shifted things in a positive way even before they got to their retreat. Follow-up coaching is also available to help you stay on track and integrate the tools and changes you acquire in the retreat into your daily lives.
DETAILS OF PROGRAM ONE — THE PRIVATE MARRIAGE RETREAT
Below are all the details of what a Private Marriage Retreat with John is like, its costs, what couples say about it, and how to set one up.
You can do this program either in person or virtually. Contrary to all expectations, virtual work has proven to be more effective than meeting in person. Read more →
WHAT HAPPENS IN A RETREAT? Read about what you will do in a retreat →
TESTIMONIALS: See what couples say about their retreats with John →
VIRTUAL RETREAT REVIEWS: What couples say about our virtual retreats →
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS: Get answers to common questions →
COST: The per-couple cost is $2950 per day for virtual work or $4950 per day for in-person work. A standard day consists of two 3-hour sessions, for 6 hours total.
TIMING & LENGTH: Standard retreats are 3 or 4 standard days long. With virtual retreats, we can schedule sessions to meet your timing needs. You could do 6-hour days in a row or spread out a series of 3-hour sessions over a week or more.
CONTACT JOHN: John would be happy to discuss our retreats with you either by phone or email. Feel free to contact him with any questions you have →
SIGN UP: After you and John have set specific dates for your retreat, you can reserve those dates and book your retreat here →
DELUXE OPTION: In the Deluxe Private Retreat program you will work with both John and his wife Hazal together. Ask about this if you’re interested.
With a virtual retreat, we have more flexibility in scheduling a retreat to meet your specific timing needs.
Contact John to discuss dates for your retreat. Then reserve your retreat with a deposit.
Just follow these two steps:
STEP 1: Set up the dates for your retreat by calling or texting John at (707) 536-5781 or by reaching him through our contact page here →
STEP 2: Once you and John have settled on the specific dates for your retreat, then reserve your dates here →
Book a Private Marriage Retreat with John Grey
Program Two — The Special Couples Retreat
The Special Retreat is a proven, powerfully structured 3-day program with Hazal Grey, MA, MFA, RDT, REAT, RSME/T.
Read all about Hazal’s background and approach here →
For years Hazal and John have jointly presented their popular and dynamic couples retreats for groups of couples. This program is powerful and successful beyond all expectations. See the feedback they routinely got from couples who participated in these groups.
The Special Couples Retreat adapts this program to be presented to just one couple at a time. So, you can now work with Hazal privately for the same cost of sharing a group retreat with eight couples.
You get powerful relationship tools, along with structured exercises and coaching. It follows a set program while addressing your specific issues, giving you the key tools to heal, reconnect, and build a solid, thriving relationship.
Because Hazal works with one couple at a time delivering the group program, some clients describe it as getting the best of both worlds at an affordable cost.
The Special Couples Retreat program consists of six 3-hour sessions. In each 3-hour session, you will work with Hazal for two hours. In the third hour, there’s a structured exercise for you to do as a couple. This is usually done over 3 consecutive days. But since meetings are virtual, you can opt to spread sessions out over more days.
There is also powerful preparatory work that primes you before a retreat begins. Many couples said it shifted things in a positive way even before they got to their retreats. Follow-up coaching is also available to help you stay on track and integrate the tools and changes you acquire in the retreat into your daily lives.
If your situation is particularly distressing and complex, or if you simply have the means, we’d always suggest the Private Marriage Retreat (see Program One above) for more in-depth, tailored coaching. While John normally conducts these, Hazal also offers Private Retreats and can also add one or more Private Retreat days onto the end of a Special Retreat. In either case, Hazal works virtually. See below for details.
DETAILS OF PROGRAM TWO — THE SPECIAL COUPLES RETREAT
Here are all the details of what a Special Couples Retreat with Hazal is like, its costs, what couples say about it, and how to set one up:
PROGRAM REVIEWS: What couples say about this retreat program →
TESTIMONIALS: See feedback from couples about working with Hazal →
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS: Get answers to common questions →
COST: The per-couple cost is $3450 total for the full 3-day program.
TIMING & LENGTH: The program consists of six 3-hour sessions. In each 3-hour session, you will work with Hazal for two hours and then do a structured exercise as a couple in the third hour. You can do 3 full days in a row or spread sessions over more days.
DELUXE OPTION: Hazal also conducts customized Private Retreats (like Program One described above). Do a full Private Retreat with Hazal or add on customized days to a Special Retreat. The cost is $1950 per full 6-hour standard day.
CONTACT HAZAL: Hazal would be happy to discuss a retreat with you either by phone or email. Feel free to call her at (707) 787-1967 or contact Hazal here →
SIGN UP: After you and Hazal have set specific dates for your retreat, you can reserve those dates and book your retreat here →