We offer two different types of intensive marriage retreats, or couples retreats. These two programs are:
All the details about both programs are presented below, including logistical information, their different costs, and how to schedule each type of retreat.
We are located in the friendly small town of Sebastopol in Sonoma County, California, which is in the northern part of the San Francisco Bay Area.
Program One — The Private Marriage Retreat
In the Private Marriage Retreat program individual couples get fully-customized coaching and help from John Grey, PhD.
This intensive program provides couples clarity and a profound depth of positive transformation and change. It is by far in the highest demand by partners who are facing major issues or distress and want to take significant steps in making meaningful improvements in their relationship.
The standard day in this program is two 3-hour sessions with a break between. We recommend doing full days in a row. However, the added flexibility of working virtually means you can spread out your 3-hour sessions over more days in a way that best meets any special scheduling needs.
The most common intensive marriage retreat program with John is 3 to 4 standard days long. This provides the time for most couples to get the tools they need, heal emotional wounds, repair ruptures in their relationship, resolve issues, and make major positive shifts in restoring trust, intimacy, hope, connection. Some couples who have the need, resources, or interest opt to do a 5-day retreat.
John recommends a 4 or 5-day length if partners are suffering from infidelity, trauma, or significant emotional wounds; if one person is ambivalent about staying married; or if there are multiple significant issues. On the other hand, for couples that are not in a lot of distress and are clearly motivated to work, a 3-day long retreat could suffice. Contact John for advice on your particular situation.
There is also preparatory work that primes you before your retreat begins. couples report this work shifts things in a positive way even before they got to their retreat. Follow-up coaching is also available to help you stay on track and integrate the changes you make in the retreat into your daily lives. John works virtually. See below for details.
DETAILS OF PROGRAM ONE — THE PRIVATE MARRIAGE RETREAT
Below are all the details of what a Private Marriage Retreat with John is like, its costs, what couples say about it, and how to set one up.
WHAT HAPPENS IN A RETREAT? What we do in a retreat →
ABOUT JOHN: His background, training, and approach →
TESTIMONIALS: What couples say about their retreats with John →
VIRTUAL RETREATS: Get better results than in person retreats →
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS: Answers to common questions →
TIMING & LENGTH: Retreats can be 3 to 5 standard (6-hour) days long. Virtual work offers added flexibility to schedule sessions to meet your timing needs.
CONTACT JOHN: John would be happy to discuss our retreats with you either by phone or email. Feel free to contact him with any questions you have →
SIGN UP: After you and John have set specific dates for your retreat, you can reserve those dates and book your retreat here →
Here are the steps to book a Private Retreat with John. He generally can meet any specific timing needs you may have.
Contact John to discuss dates for a retreat. Then reserve your retreat with a deposit.
Just follow these two steps:
STEP 1: Set up the dates for your retreat by calling or texting John at (707) 536-5781 or by reaching him through our contact page here →
STEP 2: Once you and John have settled on the specific dates for your retreat, then reserve your dates here →
Book a Private Marriage Retreat with John
- Set dates for a retreat. Get more info: contact John here →
- Discuss a retreat with John by phone at: (707) 536-5781
- After setting up dates with John: book your retreat here →
Program Two — The Special Couples Retreat
The Special Retreat is a proven and powerfully structured 3-day intensive program with Suzan Grey, MA, MFA, RDT, REAT, RSME/T.
As in the Private Retreat, this Special Retreat program is conducted with individual couples. It was distilled from a program originally developed by John and Suzan for working with group couples retreats.
For years Suzan and John jointly presented this popular and dynamic program that gave couples the most useful, powerful tools and became successful beyond all expectations. See the feedback from participants.
In her Special Couples Retreat, Suzan has adapted this program to be given to an individual couple. You get powerful relationship tools, along with structured exercises and coaching. She designed it to give you the key skills to build a solid, thriving relationship, while addressing specific issues, overcoming negative patterns, and coaching you to communicate for relationship repair and positive connection.
Because Suzan works with one couple at a time delivering the group program, some clients describe it as getting the best of both worlds at an affordable cost.
The Special Couples Retreat program consists of six sessions. In each session, you will work with Suzan for two hours. Between sessions there is a structured exercise for you to do as a couple. The retreat is usually done over three consecutive days. But there is flexibility for you to spread sessions out over more days.
There is also powerful preparatory work that primes you before a retreat begins. Many couples said it shifted things in a positive way even before they got to their retreats. Follow-up coaching is also available to help you stay on track and integrate the tools and changes you acquire in the retreat into your daily lives.
If your situation is particularly distressing and complex, or if you simply have the means, we’d always suggest the Private Marriage Retreat (see program one above) for more in-depth, tailored coaching. While John often conducts these, Suzan also offers Private Retreats and you can even add one or more Private Retreat days onto the end of a Special Retreat with her. Suzan works virtually. See below for details.
DETAILS OF PROGRAM TWO — THE SPECIAL COUPLES RETREAT
Here are all the details of what a Special Couples Retreat with Suzan is like, its costs, what couples say about it, and how to set one up:
WHAT HAPPENS IN A RETREAT? What we do in a retreat →
ABOUT SUZAN: Her background, training, and approach →
PROGRAM REVIEWS: What couples say about this retreat program →
TESTIMONIALS: Feedback from couples on working with Suzan →
VIRTUAL RETREATS: Get better results than in person retreats →
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS: Answers to common questions →
COST: The per-couple cost is $4950 total for the full 3-day program.
TIMING & LENGTH: The program consists of six 2-hour sessions, plus structured exercises for you to do as a couple between sessions. You can do 3 full days in a row or spread sessions over more days.
CONTACT SUZAN: Suzan would be happy to discuss a retreat with you either by phone or email. Feel free to call her at (707) 787-1967 or contact Suzan here →
SIGN UP: After you and Suzan have set specific dates for your retreat, you can reserve those dates and book your retreat here →
MORE OPTIONS WITH SUZAN — PRIVATE RETREATS & HYBRID RETREATS
PRIVATE RETREAT WITH SUZAN: Suzan also conducts the fully customized Private Marriage Retreat program that is described at top of this page.
HYBRID RETREAT: You also have the option to create a hybrid retreat by starting with Suzan’s Special Retreat program, followed by one or more Private Retreat days.
Book a Special Couples Retreat with Suzan
- Set dates for a retreat. Get more info: contact Suzan here →
- Discuss a retreat with Suzan by phone at: (707) 787-1967
- After setting up dates with Suzan: book your retreat here →