Details About Our Marriage Retreats

Below are logistical details about our marriage retreats in California. We also call these couples retreats, as non-married partners are welcome to attend.

During the pandemic we can also call these virtual couples retreats or online marriage intensives, as we conduct them using Zoom.

If you haven’t yet seen the main page about our retreats, you’ll want to read the overall description of our retreats plus frequently asked questions →

Virtual Retreats via Zoom

We are located in California, the San Francisco Bay Area, in Sonoma County, in the town of Sebastopol. During the COVID-19 pandemic, we are conducting virtual retreats online using Zoom rather than meeting in person.

Having used online video for years, we effectively deliver best-in-class relationship help. Couples find our online intensive program to be equal in effectiveness to our in-person retreats. Here’s what a few couples recently said about our online work:

“We were initially quite apprehensive about doing an intensive retreat online vs. in person. But John coached us the same as if we were together. In hindsight, there are no negatives to doing this online, and there are some real positives.” 

“During this stay-at-home period the online intensive we did with you has literally saved our marriage. We are so glad we found you. And we thank you for the security we have found with each other through working with you.”  

“This has been awesome to do during the Coronavirus time. We’re really grateful for you. We really weren’t doing very well. This all has been really effective. It finally feels like we are really a team and we own our relationship as real partners.”

Read more about our virtual retreats and see feedback from other couples →

Virtual Private Retreat with John

vineyard near california couples retreat locationIn a Private Retreat you get John’s undivided attention for 6 hours each day. Retreats can also spread over a series of half-days.

Retreats are usually 3 or 4 full (6-hour) days long. This provides the time to learn the tools you need, resolve issues, and make major positive shifts in how you feel.

Most couples experience significant changes over this time: restoring trust, intimacy, hope, and connection. And feeling confident going forward with new effective communication tools and strategies.

Many couples who have either the need, time, resources, or interest choose to do a 4-day retreat. The added length of time helps you achieve deeper results in acquiring new, positive communication tools. The added time can also help you more deeply heal old emotional wounds and shift into a place of trust and re-connection.

We always recommend a 4-day length if a couple is suffering from past affairs, traumas, or significant emotional wounds; if someone’s deeply ambivalent about staying married; or if there are multiple significant issues.

river near retreat locationYou can also elect to have a 5-day length if you have particularly difficult and intractable issues to resolve, or if you simply want to take more time for healing and reconnection.

For couples not in distress, but looking for a tuneup or follow-up retreat, a 2-day length may be sufficient, but please check with us before booking it.

We can schedule a retreat to fit your timing needs. Like our in-person retreats, your virtual intensive could have a pair of 3-hour sessions per day. Thus a 3-day retreat would have two 3-hour sessions per day spread over three consecutive days.

However, given the flexibility of a virtual intensive Private Retreat, you could choose to spread a series of 3-hour sessions over a longer timespan of a week or more, having one session per day. Your retreat can take place on weekdays and/or the weekend.

Our Private Retreat gives couples a rare level of personal coaching and provides profound depth of positive transformation and change. This retreat is by far in the highest demand by couples who want to take significant steps to make meaningful improvements in their relationship.

There is also powerful preparatory work that primes you before the retreats. Many couples say it shifts things in a positive direction even before you get to your retreat.

Follow-up coaching sessions are also available to help you stay on track and integrate the tools and changes you acquire in the retreat into your daily lives.

Here are details about what a virtual retreat with John is like, what couples say about them, the costs and how to set one up:

WHAT HAPPENS IN A RETREAT? Read about what you will do in a retreat.

TESTIMONIALS: See what couples say about their retreats with John.

COST: The per-couple cost is $2950 per day. A standard day consists of two 3-hour sessions, for 6 hours total. Note, you can split days and spread sessions out.

TIMING & LENGTH: Standard retreats range between 3 and 5 full (6-hour) days. With virtual retreats, we can meet any of your timing needs. You could do full days in a row, and/or spread out a series of 3-hour sessions over a week or more.

CONTACT US: We would be happy to discuss our retreats with you either by phone or email. Feel free to contact John with any questions you have.

How to Book a Retreat with John

Steps to set up a virtual retreat

Since we are now conducting virtual retreats, we can offer you flexibility in scheduling your retreat to meet your specific timing needs. Hence we are not posting a fixed-day sign-up calendar at this time.


STEP 1: Set up specific dates for your retreat by calling or texting John at (707) 536-5781 or by using our contact page →

STEP 2: Once you and John have set dates for your retreat, then reserve those dates by clicking in the box below or using this link →

Book a Private Retreat with John — Go here to reserve your dates →

…in addition to John, you can also work with Hazal…

Private & Converted Group Retreats with Hazal

Hazal Grey, MA, MFA, RDT, REAT, RSME/T, is John’s wife and partner at Healing Couples Retreats. Hazal and John co-lead all Group Retreats (see Special 3-Day Program below). Taking the same approach as John, Hazal also conducts her own Private Retreats.

PRIVATE RETREAT COST: The per-couple cost is $1950 per day. A day has two 3-hour sessions, with a break, making 6 hours total. Retreats are 2 to 4 days long.

DATES & TIMING: Hazal can meet your timing needs. Concentrated retreats have two 3-hour sessions per day. You can also spread sessions out over a week or more.

CONVERTED GROUP RETREAT (Special 3-day Program): Hazal also offers a special 3-day program based on the Group Retreat that she and John co-lead. Given that we are not currently conducting groups, Hazal’s Converted Group Retreat program is a virtual retreat that you do privately with her.

TIMING & COST: Hazal’s Converted Group Retreat program is just like our in-person group program. You get 12 hours of education and coaching with Hazal, plus 6 hours of structured exercises for you as a couple. Like our regular groups, you can take it over a span of 3 days in a row. Or you can also spread your sessions out over a week or more. The cost is $2950.

If you are interested in discussing any of the retreats Hazal offers, use the link in the box below to find out more details and to contact her:

Get more information about Hazal’s background, her approach, and her virtual retreats. Go here for more details or to contact Hazal →