Details About Our Marriage Retreats

Below are the costs and location of our marriage retreats in California. Since partners do not have to be married to attend a retreat, we also refer to these as couples retreats. If you have not yet read it, see the overview description of our retreats – plus FAQs »

We offer two types of retreats: a Private Retreat where just you and your partner work with John, and a Group Retreat that you share with other couples. Below you will find the details for each type of retreat. You can also see our calendar of available dates »

Couples Retreat Location in California

Our Healing Couples Retreat Center is in California, located in the northern San Francisco Bay Area. It is set in the western part of Sonoma County, in the friendly small town of Sebastopol. Sonoma is one of the premiere grape-growing areas in the world. The landscape is a breathtaking patchwork of vineyards spread across gentle hills, offering one of the most beautiful terrains in California.

There are many things to see and do while you have your retreat in this part of California. The activities and sights will take you from serene redwood forests, to scenic rivers, out to expansive beaches and the rocky coast of the Pacific Ocean. Add top quality restaurants, the charm of small towns set amidst wineries — and you can easily feel like you’re in Tuscany! For a California couples retreat location, you can’t find a more charming spot!

NOTE: The Northern California wildfires did not touch our western half of Sonoma County. This remarkable part of the world is just as enjoyably beautiful as always.


Private Retreat for Individual Couples

vineyard near california couples retreat locationYou and your partner work individually with John. Private Retreats are usually 3 or 4 days in length, as this provides time to resolve issues and integrate the new tools you learn into how you’ll interact once you are back home. We recommend a 4-day length if you are under the distress of past affairs, traumas, or significant emotional wounds; if someone’s deeply ambivalent about staying married; or if you have multiple significant issues.

You can also elect to have a 5-day length if you can afford spending the time, if you have particularly difficult and intractable issues to resolve, or if you simply want to take more time for healing and reconnection. For couples not in distress, but looking for a tuneup or followup retreat, a 2-day length may be sufficient, but please check this with us first before booking this shortened retreat.

A Private Retreat can be over a weekend or during the week. Hours are from 10:30 am to 6:00 pm, with a good hour and a half lunch break. You may also have a bit of optional work to do outside of sessions. And there is powerful preparatory work that many couples say shifts things in a positive direction even before you get to your retreat.

Many couples who have either the need, time, resources, or interest choose to do a 4-day retreat. The added length of time helps you achieve deeper results in acquiring new, positive communication tools. The added time can also help you more deeply heal old emotional wounds and shift into a place of trust and re-connection.

The Private Retreat gives couples a rare level of personal coaching and provides profound depth of positive transformation and change. The private format is by far in the highest demand by couples, who want to take significant steps to make meaningful improvements in their relationship.

MORE INFO: Read more about what happens in a private retreat »

TESTIMONIALS: Read our feedback and see what couples say after a private retreat »

COST: The per-couple cost is $8850 for the 3-day Private Retreat, and 4-day or 5-day retreats are proportionally priced. Travel, meals and accommodations not included.

DATES: Private Retreats are offered throughout the year on any available days of the week. Look below for our calendar of available dates »

SIGN-UP: If you are ready to book a Private Retreat reserve the dates you want here »

CONTACT US: We would be happy to discuss our Private Retreat with you either by phone or email. Feel free to contact us with any questions you have »

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ACCOMMODATIONS: We have a list of recommended places to stay. Having your couples retreat location in our part of California is a special joy. Here, you can choose between a wide variety of charming cottages, hotels, B&B’s and inns.

Next Steps to Book a Private Retreat


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NOTES ABOUT CALENDAR: The calendar is not interactive and you cannot click on it to reserve dates. To make a reservation use these links — to book a Private Retreat — or to enroll in a Group Retreat.

We try to keep the calendar up to date. But feel free to contact us to make sure that dates you want are available.


Group Retreat Shared with Other Couples

coast near retreatJohn offers Shared Group Retreats. In these, you and your partner join other couples and share a retreat. The group size is small enough to enable you to receive personal coaching and individual focus. John is joined by highly talented and experienced counselors to provide any in-depth coaching you need. We offer two groups: regular and extra-small. There are usually eight couples in our regular group retreats. In our special, extra-small groups enrollment is usually four couples.

People often ask how the Private Retreat above compares with our Group Retreat, and what is more appropriate for them. The basic answer is that it all depends on your needs and goals. Even though John keeps the group size smaller than the typical group retreat program, and you will receive individual attention, the private work offers the most appropriate level of help for couples suffering significant distress or stickiness, and who want to address major issues.

If you are in significant distress you will benefit more from in-depth, individually tailored coaching available only in a Private Retreat. That said, we have been told many times how our Group Retreat turned around marriages on the verge of divorce. Some couples do supplement this retreat with an add-on full-day private session with John, or come back at a later date for a Private Retreat.

MORE INFO: Read more details about what happens in a group retreat »

TESTIMONIALS: Read our feedback and see what couples say about our group retreat »

TIMING: Our group retreats start Friday at noon and end Sunday at 4:00 PM.

COST: The per-couple cost for our regular group is $2350, and the special, extra-small group is $2950. Travel, meals, accommodations not included.

DATES: Our next regular group is Valentines Day weekend, Feb 9-11, 2018.

SIGN-UP: If you want to join you can enroll here »

CONTACT US: If you want to ask questions about our Group Retreats contact us here »

ACCOMMODATIONS: We have a list of recommended places to stay. Having your couples retreat location in our part of California is a special joy. Here, you can choose between a wide variety of charming cottages, hotels, B&B’s and inns.

Next Steps to Join a Group Retreat

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