Details About Our Marriage Retreats

Below are the costs and location of our marriage retreats in California, plus a calendar of available dates. Of course you do not have to be married to attend, so we also call this a couples retreat. And if you have not yet read it, here’s the overview description of our retreats »

Couples Retreat Location in California

Our California couples retreat location is in the northern part of the San Francisco Bay Area, specifically in Sonoma County, in the friendly small town of Sebastopol. Sonoma County is one of the premiere grape-growing areas in the world. The landscape here is a breathtaking patchwork of vineyards spread across gentle hills, offering one of the most beautiful terrains in California.

There are many things to see and do while you have your retreat in this part of California. The activities and sights will take you from serene redwood forests, to scenic rivers, out to expansive beaches and the rocky coast of the Pacific Ocean. Add top quality restaurants, the charm of small towns set amidst wineries — and you can easily feel like you’re in Tuscany! For a couples retreat location, you can’t find a more charming spot!

We offer two types of retreats: a Private Retreat where just you and your partner work with John, and a Group Retreat that you share with other couples. Read on for the details…


Private Retreat for Individual Couples

vineyard near california couples retreat locationYou and your partner work individually with John. Private Retreats are usually 3 or 4 days in length, as this provides time to resolve issues and integrate the new tools you learn into how you’ll interact once you are back home. We recommend a 4-day length if you are under the distress of past affairs, traumas, or significant emotional wounds; if someone’s deeply ambivalent about staying married; or if you have multiple significant issues.

You can also elect to have a 5-day length if you can afford spending the time, if you have particularly difficult and intractable issues to resolve, or if you simply want to take more time for healing and reconnection. For couples not in distress, but looking for a tuneup or followup retreat, a 2-day length may be sufficient, but please check this with us first before booking this shortened retreat.

A Private Retreat can be over a weekend or during the week. Hours are from 10:30 am to around 6:00 pm, with a good hour and a half lunch break. You may also have a bit of optional work to do outside of sessions. And there is powerful preparatory work that many couples say shifts things in a positive direction even before you get to your retreat. Read more about what happens in a retreat »

Many couples who have the need, time, resources, or interest choose to take a length of 4 days in duration. The added length of time helps you achieve deeper results in acquiring new, positive communication tools. The added time can also help you more deeply heal old emotional wounds and shift into a place of trust and re-connection.

The Private Retreat gives couples a rare level of personal coaching and offers you a profound depth of positive transformation and change. The private format is by far in the highest demand by couples who approach us, who want to take significant steps to make meaningful improvements in their relationships.

COST: The per-couple cost is $5850 for the standard 3-day Private Retreat. Longer 4- or 5-day retreats are an additional $1950 per day. Travel, meals and accommodations not included.

DATES: You can arrange a Private Retreat on a weekend or during the week, whichever works best for you. Available throughout the year. Below, you will find our calendar of available dates.

CONTACT US: We would be happy to discuss our Private Retreat with you either by phone or email. Feel free to contact us with any questions you have »

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ACCOMMODATIONS: We have a list of recommended places to stay. Having your couples retreat location in our part of California is a special joy. Here, you can choose between a wide variety of charming cottages, hotels, B&B’s and inns.

Next Steps to Book a Private Retreat

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NOTE ABOUT CALENDAR: Occasionally there are delays in our calendar getting updated. So it is best to contact us to make sure the dates you want to book are still available.


Shared Small Group Retreat

rocky coast near retreatJohn offers Shared Group Retreats. In these, you and your partner join a small number of couples to share a retreat together. The group size is kept small enough to enable you to receive personal coaching and individual focus. There’s a maximum of eight couples, and depending on enrollment, the size has been as small as four. John is joined by a highly talented and experienced counseling team to provide any in depth coaching you need.

People often ask how the Private Retreat above compares with our Group Retreat, and what is more appropriate for them. The basic answer is that it all depends on your needs and goals. Even though John keeps the group size smaller than the typical group retreat program, and you will receive individual attention, the private work offers the most appropriate level of help for couples suffering significant distress or stickiness, and who want to address major issues.

If you are in significant distress you will benefit more from in-depth, individually tailored coaching available only in a Private Retreat. That said, we have been told many times how our Group Retreat turned around marriages on the verge of divorce. Some couples do supplement this retreat with an add-on full-day private session with John, or come back at a later date for a Private Retreat.

COST: The per-couple cost is $2300. Travel, meals, accommodations not included.

DATES: The next Group Retreat is on the weekend of June 23 – 25, 2017. It will start on Friday at noon and end on Sunday at 4:00 PM. To join this group – enroll here »

CONTACT US: If you want to ask questions about our Group Retreats, contact us here »

ACCOMMODATIONS: We have a list of recommended places to stay. Having your couples retreat location in our part of California is a special joy. Here, you can choose between a wide variety of charming cottages, hotels, B&B’s and inns.

Next Steps to Join a Group Retreat

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