Our Two Marriage Retreat Programs

We offer two different types of intensive marriage retreats, or couples retreats. These two programs are:

All the details about both programs are presented below, including logistical information, their different costs, and how to schedule each type of retreat.

As a pioneer of the intensive approach, for decades we have been internationally known for the couples retreats we gave in California, San Francisco Bay Area, Sonoma County. But when the pandemic hit, we started conducting online virtual retreats via Zoom.

To our amazement, our virtual work proved to be more successful and effective than the in-person retreats we’ve given for over three decades. So now we continue to conduct all retreats virtually. Here’s what couples say about our virtual retreats →


Program One — The Private Marriage Retreat

vineyard near California couples retreat locationIn the Private Marriage Retreat program individual couples get fully-customized coaching and help from John Grey, PhD.

This 3 or 4 day long intensive program provides couples clarity and a profound depth of positive transformation and change.

It is by far in the highest demand by partners who are facing major issues or distress and want to take significant steps in making meaningful improvements in their relationship.

The standard day in this program is two 3-hour sessions with a break between. Retreats are 3 to 4 standard days long (total of 18 to 24 hours of work). The flexibility of working virtually also enables you to spread out these 3-hour sessions over more days.

The most common intensive marriage retreat program with John is 3 standard days long. This provides the time for most couples to learn the tools they need, resolve issues, and make major positive shifts in how they feel — restoring trust, intimacy, hope, connection — and confidence going forward with effective communication tools and strategies.

Many couples who have the need, resources, or interest opt to do a 4-day retreat. The added 6 hours helps achieve deeper results in mastering their new, positive communication tools. The added time can also help more deeply heal old emotional wounds and shift into a place of trust and re-connection.

John always recommends a 4-day length if a couple is suffering from past affairs, traumas, or significant emotional wounds; if someone’s deeply ambivalent about staying married; or if there are multiple significant issues.

There is also powerful preparatory work that primes you before your retreat with John begins. Many couples have reported this work shifted things in a positive way even before they got to their retreat. Follow-up coaching is also available to help you stay on track and integrate the tools and changes you acquire in the retreat into your daily lives.



DETAILS OF PROGRAM 1 — THE PRIVATE MARRIAGE RETREAT

Here are all the details of what a Private Marriage Retreat with John is like, its costs, what couples say about it, and how to set one up:

WHAT HAPPENS IN A RETREAT? Read about what you will do in a retreat →

ABOUT JOHN: Read about John’s background, training, and approach →

TESTIMONIALS: See what couples say about their retreats with John →

VIRTUAL RETREAT REVIEWS: What couples say about our virtual retreats →

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS: Get answers to common questions →

COST: The per-couple cost is $2950 per 6-hour day. A “standard day” consists of two 3-hour sessions, for 6 hours total.

TIMING & LENGTH: Standard retreats are 3 or 4 standard days long. With virtual retreats, we can schedule sessions to meet your timing needs. You could do 6-hour days in a row or spread out a series of 3-hour sessions over a week or more.

CONTACT JOHN: John would be happy to discuss our retreats with you either by phone or email. Feel free to contact him with any questions you have →

SIGN UP: After you and John have set specific dates for your retreat, you can reserve those dates and book your retreat here →


river near retreat locationWith a virtual retreat, we now offer flexibility in scheduling your retreat to meet any of your specific timing needs. Hence we don’t have a fixed-day sign-up calendar.

Instead, contact John to discuss dates for your retreat. Then reserve your retreat with a deposit. Just follow these two steps:

STEP 1: Set up the dates for your retreat by calling or texting John at (707) 536-5781 or by reaching him through our contact page here →

STEP 2: Once you and John have settled on the specific dates for your retreat, then either click in the box below, or reserve your dates here →

Book a Private Marriage Retreat with John Grey


Program Two — The Special Couples Retreat

The Special Retreat is a proven, powerfully structured 3-day program with Hazal Grey, MA, MFA, RDT, REAT, RSME/T.

Read all about Hazal’s background and approach here →

For years Hazal and John have jointly presented their popular and dynamic 3-day Couples Retreats for groups of couples. Usually 8 couples would spend a 3-day weekend at our retreat center in Sonoma County.

The program that Hazal and John co-developed for groups consistently proved to be powerful and successful beyond all expectations, as you can see by the feedback routinely received from couples who participated in these groups.

When covid hit, we started conducting all retreats virtually. And we quickly discovered that a group retreat presented virtually lost in effectiveness. So we immediately stopped offering group work.

Hazal wanted to continue offering the program virtually as a Special Couples Retreat, but conducting it with one couple at a time! So, you can actually work with Hazal privately for the same cost as previously charged for sharing a group retreat with 8 couples.

You get powerful relationship tools, along with structured exercises and coaching. It follows a set program while addressing your specific issues, giving you the key tools to heal, reconnect, and build a solid, thriving relationship.

Because Hazal works with one couple at a time delivering the group program, some clients describe it as getting the best of both worlds at an affordable cost.

If your situation is particularly distressing and complex, or if you simply have the means, we’d always suggest the Private Marriage Retreat for more in-depth, tailored coaching.

The Special Couples Retreat program consists of six 3-hour sessions. In each 3-hour session, you will work with Hazal for two hours. In the third hour, there’s a structured exercise for you to do as a couple. This is usually done over 3 consecutive days. But since meetings are virtual, you can opt to spread sessions out over more days.

There is also powerful preparatory work that primes you before a retreat begins. Many couples said it shifted things in a positive way even before they got to their retreats. Follow-up coaching is also available to help you stay on track and integrate the tools and changes you acquire in the retreat into your daily lives.


DETAILS OF PROGRAM 2 — THE SPECIAL COUPLES RETREAT

Here are all the details of what a Special Couples Retreat with Hazal is like, its costs, what couples say about it, and how to set one up:

ABOUT HAZAL: Read about Hazal’s background, training, and approach →

PROGRAM REVIEWS: What couples say about this retreat program →

TESTIMONIALS: See feedback from couples about working with Hazal →

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS: Get answers to common questions →

COST: The per-couple cost is $2950 total for the full 3-day program.

TIMING & LENGTH: The program consists of six 3-hour sessions. In each 3-hour session, you will work with Hazal for two hours and then do a structured exercise as a couple in the third hour. You can do 3 full days in a row or spread sessions over more days.

ADD-ON DAYS: For extra depth, you can add one or more Private Retreat days with Hazal onto the end of your Special Retreat program.

CONTACT HAZAL: Hazal would be happy to discuss a retreat with you either by phone or email. Feel free to call her at (707) 787-1967 or contact Hazal here →

SIGN UP: After you and Hazal have set specific dates for your retreat, you can reserve those dates and book your retreat here →

Book a Special Couples Retreat with Hazal Grey