We offer two different types of intensive marriage retreats, or couples retreats. These two programs are:
All the details about both programs are presented below, including logistical information, their different costs, and how to schedule each type of retreat.
We are located in the friendly small town of Sebastopol in Sonoma County, California, which is in the northern part of the San Francisco Bay Area.
A Private Marriage Retreat with John can be conducted either in person or virtually. The Special Couples Retreat with Hazal is only conducted virtually. Note that our virtual work is as or more effective than working in person. Read more →
Program One — The Private Marriage Retreat
In the Private Marriage Retreat program individual couples get fully-customized coaching and help from John Grey, PhD.
This intensive program provides couples clarity and a profound depth of positive transformation and change. It is by far in the highest demand by partners who are facing major issues or distress and want to take significant steps in making meaningful improvements in their relationship.
The standard day in this program is two 3-hour sessions with a break between. We recommend doing full days in a row. However, the flexibility of working virtually offers can enable you to spread out your 3-hour sessions over more days in a way that best meets any special scheduling needs.
The most common intensive marriage retreat program with John is 4 standard days long. This provides the time for most couples to learn the tools they need, resolve issues, and make major positive shifts in how they feel — restoring trust, intimacy, hope, connection — and confidence going forward with effective communication tools and strategies.
Many couples who have the need, resources, or interest opt to do a 5-day retreat. The added 6 hours helps achieve deeper results in mastering their new, positive communication tools. The added time can also help more deeply heal old emotional wounds and shift into a place of trust and re-connection.
John recommends a 5-day length if partners are suffering from infidelity, trauma, or significant emotional wounds; if one person is ambivalent about staying married; or if there are multiple significant issues. On the other hand, for couples that are not in a lot of distress and are clearly motivated to work, a 3-day long retreat could suffice. Contact John for advice on your particular situation.
There is also powerful preparatory work that primes you before your retreat with John begins. Many couples have reported this work shifted things in a positive way even before they got to their retreat. Follow-up coaching is also available to help you stay on track and integrate the tools and changes you acquire in the retreat into your daily lives.
DETAILS OF PROGRAM ONE — THE PRIVATE MARRIAGE RETREAT
Below are all the details of what a Private Marriage Retreat with John is like, its costs, what couples say about it, and how to set one up.
You can do this program either in person or virtually. Contrary to all expectations, virtual work has proven to be more effective than meeting in person. Read more →
WHAT HAPPENS IN A RETREAT? What we do in a retreat →
ABOUT JOHN: His background, training, and approach →
TESTIMONIALS: What couples say about their retreats with John →
VIRTUAL RETREAT REVIEWS: Feedback on virtual retreats →
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS: Answers to common questions →
COST: The per-couple cost is $4950 per day for virtual work or $6950 per day for in-person work. A standard day consists of two 3-hour sessions, for 6 hours total.
TIMING & LENGTH: Retreats are usually 4 to 5 standard days long (3 in certain cases). Virtual work offers flexibility to schedule sessions to meet your timing needs.
CONTACT JOHN: John would be happy to discuss our retreats with you either by phone or email. Feel free to contact him with any questions you have →
SIGN UP: After you and John have set specific dates for your retreat, you can reserve those dates and book your retreat here →
DELUXE OPTION: In the Deluxe Private Retreat program you will work with both John and his wife Hazal together. Ask about this if you’re interested.
ALTERNATE OPTION: Hazal also conducts the Private Retreat program, at a lower cost. See the details in the Deluxe Option note at the bottom of this page.
With a virtual retreat, we have more flexibility in scheduling a retreat to meet your specific timing needs.
Contact John to discuss dates for your retreat. Then reserve your retreat with a deposit.
Just follow these two steps:
STEP 1: Set up the dates for your retreat by calling or texting John at (707) 536-5781 or by reaching him through our contact page here →
STEP 2: Once you and John have settled on the specific dates for your retreat, then reserve your dates here →
Book a Private Marriage Retreat with John
Program Two — The Special Couples Retreat
The Special Retreat is a proven, powerfully structured 3-day program with Hazal Grey, MA, MFA, RDT, REAT, RSME/T.
Like the Private Retreat, this Special Retreat program is given to individual couples. It was derived from a program developed by John and Hazal for groups of couples.
For years Hazal and John jointly presented a popular and dynamic group couples retreat, typically attended by eight couples. This program was highly successful beyond all expectations. See the feedback from participants.
In her Special Couples Retreat, Hazal adapted this program to be presented to just one couple at a time. So, you can work with Hazal privately for what it previously cost to share a group retreat with eight couples.
You get powerful relationship tools, along with structured exercises and coaching. It is designed to give you the key skills to build a solid, thriving relationship, while addressing your specific issues, helping you to overcome negative patterns, and coaching you to communicate for relationship repair and positive connection.
Because Hazal works with one couple at a time delivering the group program, some clients describe it as getting the best of both worlds at an affordable cost.
The Special Couples Retreat program consists of six 3-hour sessions. In each 3-hour session, you will work with Hazal for two hours. In the third hour, there’s a structured exercise for you to do as a couple. This is usually done over 3 consecutive days. But since meetings are virtual, you can opt to spread sessions out over more days.
There is also powerful preparatory work that primes you before a retreat begins. Many couples said it shifted things in a positive way even before they got to their retreats. Follow-up coaching is also available to help you stay on track and integrate the tools and changes you acquire in the retreat into your daily lives.
If your situation is particularly distressing and complex, or if you simply have the means, we’d always suggest the Private Marriage Retreat (see Program One above) for more in-depth, tailored coaching. While John normally conducts these, Hazal also offers Private Retreats and you can even add one or more Private Retreat days onto the end of a Special Retreat with her. Hazal works virtually. See below for details.
DETAILS OF PROGRAM TWO — THE SPECIAL COUPLES RETREAT
Here are all the details of what a Special Couples Retreat with Hazal is like, its costs, what couples say about it, and how to set one up:
ABOUT HAZAL: Her background, training, and approach →
PROGRAM REVIEWS: What couples say about this retreat program →
TESTIMONIALS: Feedback from couples on working with Hazal →
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS: Answers to common questions →
COST: The per-couple cost is $4950 total for the full 3-day program.
TIMING & LENGTH: The program consists of six 3-hour sessions. In each 3-hour session, you will work with Hazal for two hours and then do a structured exercise as a couple in the third hour. You can do 3 full days in a row or spread sessions over more days.
CONTACT HAZAL: Hazal would be happy to discuss a retreat with you either by phone or email. Feel free to call her at (707) 787-1967 or contact Hazal here →
SIGN UP: After you and Hazal have set specific dates for your retreat, you can reserve those dates and book your retreat here →
DELUXE OPTION: Hazal also conducts customized Private Retreats (the program at the top of this page). You can do a Private Retreat with Hazal. Or you can add Private type days to the end of a Special Retreat. The cost is $3450 per full 6-hour standard day.