We offer two different types of marriage retreats, or couples retreats:
We will explain each type of retreat in detail below, along with all logistical information like costs and scheduling.
If you haven’t yet read it, see our overview description of the retreats plus FAQs.
Virtual Retreats via Zoom during COVID-19
We are located in California, in the San Francisco Bay Area, in Sonoma County. Because in-person retreats are super-spreaders for transmitting COVID-19, during this ongoing pandemic we are conducting virtual retreats online using Zoom.
Having used online video for years, we effectively deliver best-in-class relationship help. Couples find our online intensive program to be equal in effectiveness to our in-person retreats. Here’s what some couples recently said about our online work:
more about virtual retreats
A Virtual Private Retreat with John
In a Private Retreat you will get John’s full attention and help for 6 hours per day.
A “standard” day is two 3-hour sessions with a break between. Usually, retreats are 3 to 4 standard days long (for a total of 18 to 24 hours of work).
Virtual retreats offer flexibility in how you take your sessions. Instead of a series of 6-hour standard days, you could spread out your retreat over more time, doing just one 3-hour session per day.
The most common retreat is 3 standard days long. This provides the time for most couples to learn the tools they need, resolve issues, and make major positive shifts in how they feel, restoring trust, intimacy, hope, and connection. And feeling confident going forward with effective communication tools and strategies.
Many couples who have the need, resources, or interest opt to do a 4-day retreat. The added 6 hours helps achieve deeper results in acquiring new, positive communication tools. The added time can also help more deeply heal old emotional wounds and shift into a place of trust and re-connection.
We always recommend a 4-day length if a couple is suffering from past affairs, traumas, or significant emotional wounds; if someone’s deeply ambivalent about staying married; or if there are multiple significant issues. A 5-day long retreat is also possible.
John’s Private Retreat provides couples a profound depth of positive transformation and change. It is by far in the highest demand by couples who want to take significant steps to make meaningful improvements in their relationship.
There is also powerful preparatory work that primes you before a retreat begins. Many couples said it shifted things in a positive way even before they got to their retreats. Follow-up coaching is also available to help you stay on track and integrate the tools and changes you acquire in the retreat into your daily lives.
Here are details about what a virtual retreat with John is like, what couples say about them, the costs and how to set one up:
WHAT HAPPENS IN A RETREAT? Read about what you will do in a retreat →
TESTIMONIALS: See what couples say about their retreats with John →
FEEDBACK ON VIRTUAL RETREATS: What clients of virtual retreats say →
COST: The per-couple cost is $2950 per 6-hour day. A “standard day” consists of two 3-hour sessions, for 6 hours total.
TIMING & LENGTH: Standard retreats are between 3 and 5 standard days. With virtual retreats, we can schedule sessions to meet your timing needs. You could do 6-hour days in a row or spread out a series of 3-hour sessions over a week or more.
CONTACT JOHN: John would be happy to discuss our retreats with you either by phone or email. Feel free to contact him with any questions you have →
SIGN UP: After you and John have set specific dates for your retreat, you can reserve those dates and book your retreat here →
Steps to Book a Virtual Retreat with John
With a virtual retreat, we now offer flexibility in scheduling your retreat to meet any of your specific timing needs. Hence we don’t have a fixed-day sign-up calendar.
Instead, contact John to discuss dates for your retreat. Then reserve your retreat with a deposit. Just follow these two steps:
STEP 1: Set up the dates for your retreat by calling or texting John at (707) 536-5781 or by reaching him through our contact page here →
STEP 2: Once you and John have settled on the specific dates for your retreat, then either click in the box below, or reserve your dates here →
how to schedule a retreat with john
In addition to John, you can also work with Hazal Grey…
Hazal Grey, MA, MFA, RDT, REAT, RSME/T, is John’s wife and partner at Healing Couples Retreats. She and John jointly lead all Group Retreats, and she conducts most of the follow-up work with couples.
For years Hazal and John have been co-leading their popular 3-day Group Retreats. During the pandemic, retreats are conducted virtually rather than in person.
Meeting virtually doesn’t decrease the effectiveness of Private Retreats. However, virtual groups are not nearly as effective as in-person, so we have stopped offering Group Retreats at this time.
That said, the program we developed for the Group Retreat is powerful and successful beyond all expectations, as you can see in all the feedback we get from participants.
Hazal wanted to continue offering this program, but to one couple at a time! So, you can work with her privately for the same cost as being in a group.
The Special Retreat Program with Hazal
We call this program a Special Retreat. It’s a “converted group retreat” for couples to take individually, an economical option that gives you the best of our group program.
You’ll get powerful relationship tools, along with structured exercises and coaching. It follows a set program while addressing your specific issues, giving you the key tools to heal, reconnect, and build a solid, thriving relationship.
Because Hazal works with one couple at a time delivering the group program, some clients describe it as getting the best of both worlds at an affordable cost.
If your situation is particularly distressing and complex, or if you simply have the means, we’d always suggest a Private Retreat for more in-depth, tailored coaching.
The Special Retreat program is comprised of six 3-hour sessions. The program is normally delivered over three consecutive days.
But since meetings are virtual, you can opt to spread sessions out over more days. In each 3-hour session, you will work with Hazal for two hours. In the third hour, there’s a structured exercise for you to do as a couple.
ABOUT HAZAL: Read about Hazal’s background, training, and approach →
PROGRAM SUCCESS: See what participants say about the Group program →
TESTIMONIALS: View what couples report about working with Hazal →
COST: The per-couple cost is $2950 total for the entire program.
TIMING & LENGTH: The program is 3 standard days long. Working virtually, Hazal can schedule sessions to meet your timing needs. You could do three 6-hour days in a row or spread out your sessions over more time.
ADD-ON DAYS: For extra depth, you can add one or more Private Retreat days with Hazal onto the end of your Special Retreat program.
CONTACT HAZAL: Hazal would be happy to discuss a retreat with you either by phone or email. Feel free to call her at (707) 787-1967 or contact Hazal here →
SIGN UP: After you and Hazal have set specific dates for your retreat, you can reserve those dates and book your retreat here →