Details About Our Marriage Retreats

Below are logistical details about our marriage retreats in California. We also call these couples retreats, as
unmarried partners are welcome to attend.

If you haven’t yet seen it, read our overview description of the retreats + FAQs.

We offer two different types of retreats: a Private Retreat where just you and your partner work with John, and a Group Retreat that you share with other couples. Below you can read all the details for each type of retreat. You will also find our calendar of available dates.

Couples Retreat Location in California

Our Healing Couples Retreat Center is in California, located in the northern San Francisco Bay Area. It is set in the western part of Sonoma County, in the friendly small town of Sebastopol. Sonoma is one of the premiere grape-growing areas in the world. The landscape is a breathtaking patchwork of vineyards spread across gentle hills, offering one of the most beautiful terrains in California.

There are many things to see and do while you have your retreat in this part of California. The activities and sights will take you through serene redwood forests, along scenic rivers, out to expansive beaches and the rocky Sonoma coast of the Pacific Ocean. Add in many top quality restaurants, the charm of small towns set amidst wineries — and you feel just like you’re in Tuscany! For a California couples retreat location, you can’t find a more charming spot!

(Note: The Northern California wildfires did not touch our area at all. This remarkable part of the world is just as enjoyably beautiful as ever.)


Private Retreat for Individual Couples

vineyard near california couples retreat locationYou and your partner work with John. You have his full attention for 6 hours a day. Private Retreats are usually 3 or 4 days in length, as this provides ample time to resolve issues and integrate the new tools you learn into how you’ll interact once you are back home.

We recommend a 4-day length if you are under the distress of past affairs, traumas, or significant emotional wounds; if someone’s deeply ambivalent about staying married; or if you have multiple significant issues.

You can also elect to have a 5-day length if you can afford spending the time, if you have particularly difficult and intractable issues to resolve, or if you simply want to take more time for healing and reconnection. For couples not in distress, but looking for a tuneup or followup retreat, a 2-day length may be sufficient, but please check this with us first before booking this shortened retreat.

A Private Retreat can be over a weekend or during the week. Hours are from 10:30 am to 6:00 pm, with a good hour and a half lunch break. You may also have a bit of optional work to do outside of sessions. And there is powerful preparatory work that many couples say shifts things in a positive direction even before you get to your retreat.

Many couples who have either the need, time, resources, or interest choose to do a 4-day retreat. The added length of time helps you achieve deeper results in acquiring new, positive communication tools. The added time can also help you more deeply heal old emotional wounds and shift into a place of trust and re-connection.

The Private Retreat gives couples a rare level of personal coaching and provides profound depth of positive transformation and change. The private format is by far in the highest demand by couples, who want to take significant steps to make meaningful improvements in their relationship.

Online follow-up coaching sessions are also available to help you stay on track and integrate the tools and changes you acquire in the retreat into your lives back home.

MORE INFO: Read more about what happens in a Private Retreat.

TESTIMONIALS: See feedback about what couples say after a Private Retreat.

COST: The per-couple cost is $8850 for the 3-day Private Retreat, and 4-day or 5-day retreats are proportionally priced.

TIMING: We meet from 10:30 AM to 6:00 PM, with a 90 minute lunch break.

DATES: Private Retreats are offered throughout the year on any available days of the week. Look below for our calendar of available dates.

FOLLOW-UP: You can get online follow-up coaching to help you integrate the tools and changes you acquire in a retreat and keep moving forward on a positive track.

CONTACT US: We would be happy to discuss our Private Retreat with you either by phone or email. Feel free to contact us with any questions you have.

ACCOMMODATIONS: We have a list of recommended places to stay. Having your couples retreat location in our part of California is a special joy. Here, you can choose between a wide variety of charming cottages, hotels, B&B’s and inns.

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Retreat Schedule Calendar

Available for Private Retreat (sign-up link below calendar)

Available for Group Retreat (sign-up link below calendar)

Special Private Retreat (info & sign-up link below calendar)

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Dates On Hold (may become available, so contact us)

Add-On Private Sessions (added onto a Group Retreat)


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We may be able to see you sooner than shown. Contact us for more information. This calendar is not clickable. Sign up for a retreat using the following links:

Book a Private Retreat Now — Go here to sign up →
Sign Up for a Group Retreat — Go here to join a group →
Special Private Retreat — Go here for more info & sign up →

Group Retreat Shared with Other Couples

coast near retreatIn our Group Retreats you and your partner join other couples to share a retreat. The group size is kept small enough to enable you to receive personal coaching and individual focus. This is especially true in our special extra small groups, where enrollment is limited to between 4 and 8 couples.

People often ask how a Private Retreat compares with our Group Retreat, and what is more appropriate for them. It all depends on your needs and goals. Even though we offer a group size smaller than typical programs so you can receive individual attention, private work offers the most intensive level of coaching customized to you.

We do offer a combination Group + Private Retreat. Add one or more days of Private Retreat to immediately follow your Group Retreat. This is an especially powerful format. See the calendar above for available follow-up days. Of course, you are welcome to return at any time later for a Private Retreat.

Couples suffering significant distress or stuckness, and who want to address major issues may want to benefit from the in-depth, individually tailored coaching available in a Private Retreat. That said, we especially find that our special extra small Group Retreats routinely turn around marriages on the verge of divorce, help couples recover from infidelity, and successfully negotiate many other major issues.

We also get asked if couples share their personal issues and problems with the group. Not really. Most couples work through personal issues in our private break-out sessions, where you can get private coaching from us as you use the tools you are learning. In the group, most sharing is focused on learning the tools.

Couples report there’s special power being in a group. You see other couples patterns and experience a shared energy of positive change. Far from being uncomfortable in a group setting, most participants quickly feel at home, enthusiastic to share a joint journey of learning, discovery, healing and growth.

Online follow-up coaching sessions are also available to help you stay on track and integrate the tools and changes you acquire in the retreat into your lives back home.

MORE INFO: Read more details about what happens in a Group Retreat.

TESTIMONIALS: Read feedback on what couples say about our Group Retreat.

COST: The per-couple cost is $2350 for our regular group size, and $2950 for our special extra small groups.

TIMING: Group Retreats start Friday at 1:00 PM and end Sunday at 4:30 PM.

DATES: Upcoming retreats are Dec 6-8, Jan 10-12, Feb 14-16 and Feb 21-23.

FOLLOW-UP: You can get online follow-up coaching to help you integrate the tools and changes you acquire in a retreat and keep moving forward on a positive track.

CONTACT US: If you want to ask questions about our Group Retreats contact us.

ACCOMMODATIONS: We have a list of recommended places to stay. Having your couples retreat location in our part of California is a special joy. Here, you can choose between a wide variety of charming cottages, hotels, B&B’s and inns.

ADD-ON PRIVATE DAYS: Some couples add a day or more of Private Retreat tagged onto the end of their Group Retreat. This enables them to more deeply address and resolve issues with full-time customized coaching.

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