Marriage Retreat

For over 30 years Dr. John Grey has helped couples rebuild healthy, happy relationships. He offers a uniquely effective couples retreat to repair struggling marriages.

A marriage retreat with John offers a fast track to positive change — an intensive, supportive environment to achieve profound results.

In a concentrated program, your relationship will be transformed. And you will acquire new tools to keep your love strong and thriving.

An Intensive Retreat to Transform Your Marriage

John’s marriage retreat program — or couples retreat (you don’t have to be married) — is unique in how it offers deep and personally meaningful change. It isn’t a one-size-fits-all seminar nor is it based on religious beliefs.

John tailors your marriage intensive retreat program to meet your specific goals, needs and circumstances as the unique couple you are.  

Couples usually come to John in crisis, on the brink of divorce, often suffering from infidelity or other major ruptures. Most rebuild trust and save their marriage. In fact, many end up feeling far more connected and in love than they thought possible.

John’s special approach helps partners renew hope and positive feelings. And, importantly, they also get practical tools to keep their relationship strong and thriving.

Learn and Use Practical, Evidence-Based Tools

John Grey, PhDJohn received his Doctorate in Psychology from Stanford University. He subsequently co-founded/directed one of Stanford’s most successful, cutting-edge research centers that continues to lead the field.

A pioneer in the field of marriage retreats, John has been conducting couples intensives for more than three decades.

As was his orientation as a research psychologist at Stanford, he continues to focus on evidence-based methods that produce practical results.

John masterfully draws from a broad range of state-of-the-art strategies and tools. And he has a time-proven skill for helping couples achieve the positive changes they want.

In a retreat with John, couples typically get renewed spirits and hope, along with vital tools to keep building on the positive changes made working with John. Relationships heal in visible ways: marriages are saved, trust gets rebuilt, authentic emotional connection emerges, commitments for moving forward are made.

Marriage Intensive Format + Coaching by Dr. John Grey

A Powerful Combination for Change — People say they get more in a few days in a marriage intensive with John than from months or years of traditional marriage therapy! What makes his couples retreats so unique and powerful?

Dedicated Time to Get the Job Done — Time to focus on just you and your relationship. The committed timespan allows clarity and change to emerge more strongly and deeply than in week-to-week counseling sessions. This intensive approach supports you to get rapid and profound results.

You Get Relationship Tools, Not Just Talk — Couples often tell us how traditional talk therapy and marriage counseling did not help them. What they needed was new tools. The conventional model of couples therapy typically cannot provide these tools. But with John, you will get results-oriented, highly effective mentoring and coaching. You will get the tools that will put and keep you on a positive track.

John Has a Uniquely Different Approach — Having trained hundreds of therapists, John knows how and why traditional marriage counseling often fails to help couples. His retreat program offers you a qualitative difference in learning to resolve your issues. John draws from groundbreaking scientific studies that identify what couples require to maintain a secure, healthy, and fulfilling connection.

Aimed at Practical Results, Not Just Theory — As a research psychologist at Stanford University, John learned the difference between practical results vs someone’s personal theory. What you get working with John is based on neuroscience, attachment research, and studies on relationship satisfaction. It reaches far beyond what traditional couples therapy or marriage counseling has to offer.

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John’s Seasoned Approach Tailored to Help You

John works in a highly supportive way, respecting and responding to your individual needs. He tailors the work to match your specific personalities, circumstances, and backgrounds. This enables you to make rapid progress toward achieving your goals.

Since each of us is different, each couple is different. John’s marriage retreats are customized to match your needs and your particular styles. So you can get deep, personally meaningful help.

Over a 30-year span of helping couples, John has mastered a broad repertoire of couples coaching and marriage counseling techniques, which allows him to flexibly address your specific wants and needs.

He has learned how to understand and effectively work with different personality types. And to appreciate how each couple is a unique combination of two personality styles.

A Science-Based Program to Save Your Marriage

Informed by his background as a research psychologist at Stanford, John closely follows scientific studies on relationship satisfaction and integrates this knowledge into his marriage retreat program to give couples state-of-the-art tools and insights.

Current research in neuroscience and attachment theory form the evidence-based foundation of his approach to helping couples and the tools he gives them to overcome conflict and reactive cycles, heal ruptures, and operate as a collaborative team going forward.

John was a founding Core Faculty member of the PACT Institute (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy), and he helped founder Stan Tatkin develop the PACT training curriculum for couples therapists and marriage counselors based in neuroscience and attachment theory, teaching how to effectively work with even the most highly distressed couples with the widest range of issues.

“John’s work is of help to anyone wishing to repair an ailing relationship. With decades of experience behind him, he is a highly intelligent, creative force in the field of science and relationships. His work is inventive and inspiring.” — Stan Tatkin, Wired for Love

John has authored four relationship books that give couples tools to diffuse conflict, repair upsets, communicate effectively, build a positive connection, and maximize happiness together. Here’s what a leading self-help author says about John’s latest book, Five-Minute Relationship Repair:

“John presents a step-by-step process for using any relationship conflict as a doorway to deeper intimacy and expanded awareness…. everything you need to create a secure, lasting bond with your partner.” — Jack Canfield, Chicken Soup for the Soul

In working with John, know that you will get best-in-class coaching. He has a widely-held reputation for his versatility, skill, and effectiveness.

Therapists and doctors come to John for help in their marriages. High achievers frequent his retreats — executives, lawyers, entrepreneurs, developers, celebs, rock stars, baseball hall-of-famers, even billionaires and world leaders have come!

John’s intensive format, combined with his broad experience and background, offers you a unique opportunity to make a fundamental breakthrough in your relationship.

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