For 30 years Dr. John Grey has been helping couples rebuild healthy, happy relationships. He offers a uniquely powerful couples retreat in beautiful Sonoma County, California.
A marriage retreat with John offers a fast track to positive change — an intensive, supportive place to achieve profound results. In a concentrated program, your relationship will be transformed. And you will take home new tools to keep your love strong.
An Intensive Marriage Retreat to Transform Your Relationship
John’s marriage retreat program (or couples retreat, as you don’t have to be married to attend) is unique in how it offers you deep and personally meaningful change. It isn’t one of those one-size-fits-all marriage therapy seminars or marriage counseling retreats. It isn’t based on religious beliefs. John tailors your marriage intensive program to meet your specific goals, needs and circumstances as the unique couple you are.
The relationship tools you gain, and the work you accomplish, is personalized for you. John supports you to achieve the practical goals you have. Couples frequently come to John on the brink of divorce. Most rebuild trust and save their marriage. In fact, many go home feeling far more connected and in love than they dreamed possible.
Your marital retreat is led by Dr. John Grey. John received his Doctorate in Psychology from Stanford University, one of the top psychology departments in the nation. He went on to co-found and direct an internationally-prestigious and highly successful research center at Stanford.
A pioneer in the field of marriage retreats, he has been conducting couples intensives for three decades. John masterfully draws from a broad range of state-of-the-art strategies and tools. He has a time-proven skill of helping couples achieve the positive changes they want.
After attending their retreats with John, couples report that they return home with renewed spirits. They have vital new tools and strategies to keep building on positive changes they make while working with John. Their relationships grow in visible ways: marriages are saved, trust gets built, commitments for moving forward are made.
Virtual Couples Retreats in the Time of COVID-19
During the COVID-19 pandemic, we have primarily conducted virtual retreats online using Zoom. For current information about meeting in person read this. Our online intensive program is equal in effectiveness to in-person work. Here’s what couples are saying about their virtual retreats:
“I first thought ‘I don’t want to do it virtually.’ I thought I wouldn’t get as much out of it. But now I can say that it was life-changing. It really opened our eyes and our hearts. We are very happy with the results. Doing it online was actually much better for us.”
“We were initially quite apprehensive about doing an intensive retreat online vs. in person. But John coached us the same as if we were together. In hindsight, there are no negatives to doing this online, and there are some real positives.”
“We’re definitely glad we did the retreat virtually. The comfort and safety of being in our own home made such a big difference. We wouldn’t have been as comfortable doing it somewhere else. Although getting away from home is the common idea about a retreat, that would not have at all been as good as how secure we felt at our place.”
“During this stay-at-home period the online intensive we did with you has literally saved our marriage. We are so glad we found you. And we thank you for the security we have found with each other through working with you.”
“This has been awesome to do during the Coronavirus time. We’re really grateful for you. We really weren’t doing very well. This all has been really effective. It finally feels like we are really a team and we own our relationship as real partners.”
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The Marriage Intensive Format + Coaching by Dr. John Grey = A Powerful Combination for Change
Retreats are usually three days long, with a four day length available for couples who can afford the time or who are highly distressed. People say they get more in a few days in a marriage intensive with John than from months or years of traditional marriage therapy! What makes his couples retreats so unique and powerful?
The Dedicated Timespan to Get the Job Done — Time spent away from daily stress, to focus on just you and your relationship. The committed timespan allows clarity and change to emerge more strongly and deeply than in week-to-week counseling sessions. This intensive approach supports you to get rapid and profound results. Having worked with over a thousand people, John has found that a three or four day long program is ideal for experiencing a deep transformation.
You Get Relationship Tools, Not Just Talk — Couples often report how traditional talk therapy and marriage counseling did not help. Working with John they realize they didn’t need that type of talk at all. What they needed was new tools. Weekly sessions and the conventional model of couples therapy typically cannot provide these tools. But at a marital retreat with John, the emphasis is to learn a powerful set of tools to make positive changes. You will get results-oriented, versatile and highly effective coaching. And you will take home new tools that will keep you growing on a positive track.
John Has a Uniquely Different Approach — Having trained hundreds of therapists in postgraduate programs, John knows how traditional marriage counseling is often lacking in its ability to help couples. His retreat program offers you a qualitative difference in learning how to resolve your issues. The range and effectiveness of the tools you will get is vastly broader than the standard couples therapy repertoire. Because of this, John regularly trains couples therapists and marriage counselors in the the paradigm of couples therapy based in scientific research on couples satisfaction.
Aimed at Practical Results, Not Just Theory — Before he started coaching married couples, John was a research psychologist at Stanford University. He was trained to know the difference between practical results vs. someone’s personal theory. What you get in working with John is based on current findings in neuroscience and attachment research. What you learn has been informed by studies on the factors underlying lasting happiness vs. relationship deterioration. This goes far beyond what traditional couples therapy and marriage counseling approaches have to offer.
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John’s Seasoned Approach Provides the Right Tools for You
John works in a highly supportive way, respecting and responding to your individual needs. He tailors his coaching to match your specific personalities, circumstances and backgrounds. This enables you to make rapid progress toward achieving your goals.
Standardized programs and typical one-size-fits-all group workshops are not able respond to the different personality styles of each individual participant. But in reality, each of us is different, so each couple is different. John’s marriage retreats are customized to match your needs and your particular styles. So you can get deep, personally meaningful help.
Over a 30-year span of helping couples, John has mastered a broad repertoire of couples coaching and marriage counseling techniques, which allows him to flexibly address your specific wants and needs. He has learned how to understand and effectively work with different personality types. And to appreciate how each couple is a unique combination of two personality styles.
John has trained counselors and medical professionals in effective communication and change techniques that address the needs of each individual, including NeuroLinguistic Programming (NLP). As a workshop leader, he has presented relationship skills programs at the University of California, Stanford University, Scripps Medical Center and the Esalen Institute in Big Sur.
Having spent over a decade as a Stanford research psychologist, John closely follows scientific research on relationship satisfaction and integrates this knowledge into his marriage retreat program.
John applies this current findings in neuroscience and attachment theory to helping couples. This scientific research helps us understand the true underlying factors that promote long term happiness vs. distress in an intimate partnership.
John is a founding core faculty member of the PACT Institute (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy), where he helped founder Stan Tatkin develop the PACT training program for couples therapists and marriage counselors based in neuroscience and attachment research, teaching how to effectively work with all different types of couples having the widest range of issues.
John has authored four relationship books that give couples tools to diffuse conflict, repair upsets, communicate effectively, build a positive connection, and maximize happiness together. He also developed an online interactive relationship help app used by hundreds of thousands of people. Here’s what a bestselling self-help author says about Five-Minute Relationship Repair, John’s latest book:
In working with John, know that you are getting highly effective coaching. He has a reputation for his versatility, skill and effectiveness. His retreats are frequently attended by therapists, marriage counselors, and doctors, who come for help in their personal relationships. John’s intensive format, combined with his broad experience and background, offers you a uniquely powerful opportunity to make a fundamental breakthrough in your relationship. More about John →