Retreat Preparation

Thank you for signing up for a marriage retreat. When you made payment two emails got sent to the email address you provided. One was a receipt for your payment. Note that your credit card statement will show payment to “HealingCouplesRetreats.”

The other email contained information and a link to this retreat preparation page. However, as you see below, we strongly recommend you bookmark this page.

Please do the following now:

  • Bookmark this page now so you can return to it later.
  • Forward the address of this prep page to your partner.
  • Send us you and your partner’s contact information using this form →

The tasks below are suggested to prepare for your retreat. Don’t think of these as “homework” to do for us. Think of it as starting your retreat process before we meet.

Each task is to help you and your partner to better understand each other, to help you to see what’s under your negative communication patterns and to give you basic information that can start improving things now.

However, no worries if you don’t have time to do these. Your retreat stands on its own. That said, we strongly recommend doing as much as you can!

The most important task is the first one below — the Personality Type Assessment. If you can do only one thing, do that, and do it as thoroughly as you can.

1. Personality Type Assessment

This is the most useful task on this page. If you only do one thing, do this assessment of your personality type. It will change how you understand yourself and your partner. It can also help you more neutrally and accurately see how differences between your personalities create problems in your relationship and what to do about it.

  • There are two “Initial Teaser Tests” to get you start thinking about yourself. These are only a warm up. They are not deep or accurate enough to stop there.
  • If short on time, skip the teaser tests and go directly to the “Final Detailed Test”. It includes listening to audio recordings that present each personality type.
  • Absolutely DO listen to the audio descriptions of any types you relate to, to confirm and deepen your understanding of what makes that personality type tick.
  • It is also extremely beneficial to share your results with your partner and to listen to the audio descriptions of each other’s personality types.

For countless couples, doing this task started a positive change process before they began their actual retreats. Also, accurately reporting your personality types will help us more rapidly understand you and your partner, what underlies your issues, what blocks you from resolving them, and what can facilitate your healing.

Start your personality test now →


2. Your Retreat Goals

Make a list of the three top goals you have for the retreat. Put these in as positive a form as possible. Here’s an example:

A couple wants to stop getting so upset with one another. The positive form of the goal is what? To start communicating in a way that feels open, safe, inviting, and healing.

Really think about your goals. Then write them down and bring them to the retreat.


3. Self Assessment

Here are a few pages to fill out. The material in these pages will help you better identify your patterns of poor communication and negative cycles you fall into.

The link below is to a PDF file. You may know how to click on the link to directly download it to your computer. But if you just click on it, your web browser will show it to you, and then you can save it or print it from there.

Either way, print up these pages, making two copies — one for each of you. Fill in each of the pages. Then bring these with you to your retreat.

Download your self assessment PDF file here →


4. Read Five-Minute Relationship Repair

If you really want to get an in-depth head start on your retreat, get the book Five-Minute Relationship Repair.

This will help you identify the root causes of any reactive pattern of poor communication you fall into. It will also show you tools for repairing that pattern — tools we can further apply and deepen in working together at your retreat.

Any time you spend with this book will move you forward now and benefit what you get from your retreat.

If you get the printed book, we recommend purchasing it at bookshop.org because they share profits with local bookstores. You can also get it at amazon.com and barnesandnoble.com in printed or ebook versions. Apple books also carries the ebook.

Purchase Five-Minute Relationship Repair at bookshop.org now →


Remember to Make Your Final Payment

If you opted to make a half payment to reserve your Private Retreat, please remember to make your final payment before your retreat starting date.

Use the appropriate link below to get to your correct payment page:


Do your best with the above preparatory tasks, but certainly don’t worry if you cannot get to it. Doing the things above will give you a head start, but a retreat stands on its own, and our time together will be powerful either way.

We look forward to our time together in your Couples Retreat.

If you have any questions, call 707-536-5781 — or use our contact form →

Warmest wishes,
Healing Couples Retreats