Retreat Preparation

Please do the following now:

  • Bookmark this page now so you can return to it later.
  • Forward the address of this prep page to your partner.
  • Send us you and your partner’s contact information using this form →

Many of the tasks below are suggested for you to do before you get to your retreat. Don’t think of them as “homework” to do for John. There is nothing you need to report beforehand to us.

These are some powerful things for you to do that for many people will start changing things now, before you get to your retreat.

The tasks below are designed to immediately help you and your partner to better understand each other, to help you each begin to see what’s really under your negative communication patterns, and to give you some basic tools and information that can potentially start improving things now.

However, no worries if you don’t have time to do these tasks. Your retreat stands on its own, and its outcome will not depend on you doing this work. It’s up to you.

That said, we strongly recommend doing as much as you can! You will be starting your retreat now, and probably get much more out of it when you come.


1. Retreat location, timing & places to stay

Your Healing Couples Retreat is located at:
501 Swain Ave, Sebastopol, California 95472

Private Retreats schedule:
— Morning Session 10:30 AM – 1:30 PM
— Afternoon Session 3:00 PM – 6:00 PM

Group Retreats schedule:
— Friday from 1:00 PM to 8:00 PM
— Saturday from 10:00 AM to 6:00 PM
— Sunday from 10:00 AM to 4:00 PM

Here is a list of places to stay →


2. Your retreat goals

Make a list of the three top goals you have for the retreat. Put these in as positive a form as possible. Here’s an example:

A couple wants to stop getting so upset with one another. The positive form of the goal is what? To start communicating in a way that feels open, safe, inviting and healing.

Really think about your goals. Then write them down and bring them to the retreat.


3. Your personality type

It is very useful to determine your personality types. That will assist us to discuss how those differences come into play in limiting the dynamics in your relationship, and what to do about it.

I would like you to get information and knowledge about this before we meet. It will also begin to change how you see and understand each other (and yourselves too).

This test will give you and your partner much vital information about your personality types. Included will be lengthy audio descriptions of the various personality types. It’s important that you listen to the audio descriptions to confirm your type.

After you take the test, share your results with your partner. Listen to the audio descriptions together and print out the pages on my website that describe the personality types.

Start your personality test now →


4. Read my latest book

If you really want to get an in-depth head start on your retreat, get my latest book, read it, and do as many of the exercises in it you can. It will help you identify the root cause of any reactive pattern of poor communication you fall into. It will also give you tools for repairing that pattern — tools which we can further apply and deepen in working together at your retreat.

The book is titled Five-Minute Relationship Repair. It provides powerful information that is immediately helpful to you. And it offers many of the tools I present couples in my Group Retreat.

Any time you spend with this book will move you forward now and benefit what you get from your retreat, whether you are in a group or taking a Private Retreat.

Purchase Five-Minute Relationship Repair at Amazon now →


5. Self assessment

If you get my book in the previous step, know that the self assessment in this step is covered by the initial set of exercises in the book. So if you do those exercises, you don’t have to do this. The book offers far more, so I’d recommend that over this brief self assessment.

If you don’t get the book, then here are a few pages to fill out. The material in these pages will help you better identify your patterns of poor communication and negative cycles you fall into.

The link below is to a PDF file. You may know how to click on the link in a way that directly downloads it to your computer. Usually if you just click on it, the web browser you are using to view this page will show it to you, and then you can save it or print it that way.

Either way, print up these pages, making two copies — one for each of you. Fill in each of the pages. Then bring these with you to your retreat.

Download your self assessment PDF file here →


6. Send your contact info

Please make sure you have sent me you and your partner’s full names, email addresses, and cell phone numbers you will have with you when you are here.

If you haven’t done so above at the top of this page, then use this form →


7. Make your final Private Retreat payment before you arrive

If you opted to make a half payment to reserve a Private Retreat, please remember to make your final payment before you arrive. You will use the same page that you used for your initial payment. For your convenience, a link to that page is immediately below:

Make your final Private Retreat payment here →


Do your best with the above preparatory tasks, but certainly don’t worry if you cannot get to it. Doing the things above will give you a head start, but a retreat stands on its own, and our time together will be powerful either way.

I look forward to our time together in your Couples Retreat.

If you have any questions, call 707-536-5781 — or use our contact form →

Warmest wishes,
John