Retreat Preparation

Please do the following now:

  • Bookmark this page now so you can return to it later.
  • Forward the address of this prep page to your partner.
  • Send us you and your partner’s contact information using this form →

Your Retreat is Confirmed

When you reserved a Private Retreat or Group Retreat by submitting payment, you became officially enrolled in a retreat that will take place on the dates you chose. If you did not hear from us within 24 hours after submitting payment that there was a problem, you can safely assume that: (1) you are now on our schedule, (2) your retreat is fully confirmed, and (3) you can confidently book travel and accommodations.

Notice of confirmation also appears on the payment receipt that we emailed to you immediately after you submitted payment for your retreat. If you did not receive this receipt, please check your email spam folder. It was sent. And no further confirmation emails will be sent or are needed.

An exception to this would be if you pre-enrolled or got on a waiting list for a Group Retreat with a place-holder charge for $1.00. This means you are still waiting for confirmation that you are officially in the group. If you have questions about your status, please contact us.

Retreat location, timing & places to stay

Your Healing Couples Retreat is located at:
501 Swain Ave, Sebastopol, California 95472

Private Retreats schedule:
— Morning Session 10:30 AM – 1:30 PM
— Afternoon Session 3:00 PM – 6:00 PM

Group Retreats schedule:
— Friday from 1:00 PM to 8:00 PM (see NOTE below)
— Saturday from 10:30 AM to 6:30 PM
— Sunday from 10:30 AM to 4:30 PM

** NOTE: Starting in February, Friday will go from 12:30 PM to 7:30 PM

Here is a list of places to stay →

The tasks below are to start helping you now…

The tasks below are suggested for you to prepare for your retreat. Don’t think of these as “homework” to do for us. There is nothing you need to report beforehand to us. Think of it as starting your retreat process now.

These are powerful things for you to do that for many people will start changing things right away, before you get to your retreat.

The tasks below are designed to immediately help you and your partner to better understand each other, to help you each begin to see what’s really under your negative communication patterns, and to give you some basic tools and information that can potentially start improving things now.

However, no worries if you don’t have time to do these tasks. Your retreat stands on its own, and its outcome will not depend on you doing this work. It’s up to you.

That said, we strongly recommend doing as much as you can! You will be starting your retreat now, and probably get much more out of it when you come.

1. Your retreat goals

Make a list of the three top goals you have for the retreat. Put these in as positive a form as possible. Here’s an example:

A couple wants to stop getting so upset with one another. The positive form of the goal is what? To start communicating in a way that feels open, safe, inviting and healing.

Really think about your goals. Then write them down and bring them to the retreat.

2. Your personality type

It is very useful to determine your personality types. That will assist us to discuss how differences between your personalities as partners come into play in limiting the dynamics in your relationship, and what to do about it.

We would like you to get information and knowledge about this before we meet. It will also begin to change how you see and understand each other (and yourselves too).

This test will give you and your partner much vital information about your personality types. Included will be lengthy audio descriptions of the various personality types. It’s important that you listen to the audio descriptions to confirm your type.

After you take the test, share your results with your partner. Listen to the audio descriptions together and print out the pages on the website that describe the personality types.

Start your personality test now →

3. Read Five-Minute Relationship Repair

If you really want to get an in-depth head start on your retreat, get the book Five-Minute Relationship Repair. Read it, and do as many of the exercises in it you can. It will help you identify the root cause of any reactive pattern of poor communication you fall into. It will also give you tools for repairing that pattern — tools which we can further apply and deepen in working together at your retreat.

The book provides powerful information that is immediately helpful to you. And it offers many of the tools we present couples in our Group Retreat.

Any time you spend with this book will move you forward now and benefit what you get from your retreat, whether you are in a group or taking a Private Retreat.

Purchase Five-Minute Relationship Repair at Amazon now →

There is a Workbook that accompanies this book. Do as many of the exercises as you can. This will dramatically increase your knowledge well before we meet.

The link below is to a PDF file. You may know how to click on the link to directly download it to your computer. But if you just click on it, your web browser will show it to you, and then you can save it or print it from there.

Download the accompanying Workbook PDF file here →

4. Self assessment

If you do the previous step and do the exercises in its accompanying Workbook, you can skip this step (it is redundant). Compared to this step, the step above offers far more self-assessment and knowledge, so we recommend doing the above over the brief self assessment in this step (though that does take more time).

But if you don’t do the step above and the exercises, then here are a few pages to fill out. The material in these pages will help you better identify your patterns of poor communication and negative cycles you fall into.

The link below is to a PDF file. You may know how to click on the link to directly download it to your computer. But if you just click on it, your web browser will show it to you, and then you can save it or print it from there.

Either way, print up these pages, making two copies — one for each of you. Fill in each of the pages. Then bring these with you to your retreat.

Download your self assessment PDF file here →

5. Send your contact info

Please make sure you have sent us you and your partner’s full names, birth dates, email addresses, and cell phone numbers you will have with you when you are here.

If you haven’t done so above at the top of this page, then use this form →

6. Make your final Private Retreat payment before you arrive

If you opted to make a half payment to reserve your Private Retreat, please remember to make your final payment before you arrive. In order to do this, please go back to the exact same page that you used for your initial payment.

If you don’t have a bookmark or link to that page, then consult this list →

Do your best with the above preparatory tasks, but certainly don’t worry if you cannot get to it. Doing the things above will give you a head start, but a retreat stands on its own, and our time together will be powerful either way.

We look forward to our time together in your Couples Retreat.

If you have any questions, call 707-536-5781 — or use our contact form →

Warmest wishes,
Healing Couples Retreats