N and L

“Before we arrived, I feared that if this retreat doesn’t work, I don’t know what will! I also was afraid we’d be bashing each other the whole time. That’s how it usually has been with therapy. We always got stuck getting into upsets. We’ve seen four different therapists and it never got anywhere. I think I’m in a little bit of shock about how different this feels. We’re so open to each other again. Now I feel we are very connected, even more than when we first had our kids and were so happy. I feel like a huge weight has been taken off. I feel like I can trust we can really hear each other and care for each other. We finally know what makes each other work. I feel we’re a team, and that’s always been everything I’ve always wanted, and now we know how to do it. One thing I learned about myself is that I say an awful lot, but I wasn’t really communicating well. Now we know how to be a team. And we have the tools. When we first got to the retreat, we could barely look at each other. We were not touching or holding each other any more. Now we just stare at each other and smile. And hug. It’s like we got our love lives back.”