Repair Statement

Read the following Repair Statement to your partner, exactly as written. Do not improvise. Speak slowly. Say one phrase at a time. Look up and say each phrase into your partner's eyes.

(Note: Partner's Response Script appears below this section.)


I'd like to repair something with you. Is this a good time?

(Wait for your partner to say yes)


When you I got triggered.

A story came up in my mind that "."

I reacted by feeling and then started to .

But deep down inside I just felt .

A fear came up in me that I was .

What I needed more than anything was to feel .


(Wait a moment, then ask)

What did you hear me say?