Repair Statement

Read the following statement to your partner, exactly as written. Do not improvise. Speak slowly. Say one phrase at a time. Look up and say each phrase into your partner's eyes.

(Note: The Response Script appears below this section.)


I'd like to repair something with you. Is this a good time?

(Wait for your partner to say yes)


When , I got triggered.

A story came up in my mind that "."

I reacted by feeling and then started to .

But deep down inside I just felt .

A fear came up in me that I was .

What I needed more than anything was to feel .


(This section is optional)

I'm sorry I reacted that way and I'd like to take it back.

If I could do it over, I'd tell you I was feeling .

I would have admitted I felt afraid of being .

And I would have asked for reassurance so that I could feel .


(Wait a moment, then ask)

What did you hear me say?