We’re asked if we are doing in-person retreats yet. In a limited fashion, yes we are.
The Delta variant is extremely contagious as well as deadly, and as a consequence, case numbers are rising again.
Most people do not realize how an in-person retreat is a super spreading venue that is far worse than any other known superspreaders. So we are conditionally taking a limited number of couples for in-person work.
At this time, we are are only offering private marriage retreats. Couples are fully vaccinated and sessions are conducted outdoors.
But frankly, our virtual retreats are so effective and convenient to do that we will continue to offer them even after the pandemic is way in the past.
And so if you do consider working with us virtually, know that it will be no less effective. For more than a year now, we have consistently found that our virtual retreats are as good or better than meeting in person.
We have even heard from some clients that said our virtual retreats were more effective than if we had met in person! This certainly surprised us at first… but we have come to understand why our way of conducting virtual retreats is so effective.
Why Indoor Retreats Are the Worst Superspreaders
COVID-19 spreads through tiny droplets that are continually emitted by breathing or talking. This aerosol transmission spreads these suspended droplets throughout a room.
With every out breath, an infected person sprays out more and with every in breath everyone else in the room takes in more, regardless of social distance.
The probability of catching the virus is directly proportional to the length of time you’re exposed to it. It’s cumulative. With each breath, you take in more. Compounding this, each time the infected person breathes, more tiny droplets are sprayed out into the room to produce a denser accumulated cloud of virions.
All things considered, what makes it certain that an in-person intensive retreat will spread COVID-19 is the length of time we’re in the room together, unmasked, talking, just breathing, and sharing the air.
Regardless of being vaccinated, there’s no way to know if any one of us is infected. Maybe you just got it traveling, dining out, or where you’re staying. Maybe we just picked it up from our previous clients.
In an indoor intensive retreat, we’re sharing the air in a room for eighteen hours. The math is straightforward. Everyone in the room will become infected if anyone is an asymptomatic carrier. Fancy ventilation won’t be certain to prevent transmission.
Masks could help keep us from spreading the virus if anyone is infected.
But wearing a mask during an in-person retreat is like an oxymoron. It would contradict what a retreat is about and would prevent it from being effective.
Part of a retreat is about lowering one’s defenses and engaging in emotional reconnection. It’s about getting to be more your real selves with each other. That’s like “un-masking” if you will.
How to Check About In-Person Retreats?
Contact us to see if meeting in person is currently available.
Meanwhile, know that the idea that meeting in-person is better is not accurate in the least. Not with our work anyway. For over a year now, we have consistently found that our Zoom retreats are at least as effective as meeting in person.
And sometimes more so! Yes, couples have told us their virtual retreats turned out to be even more effective than in-person would have been. See feedback from our virtual retreat clients.
As a pioneer of the intensive private marriage retreat format, we have been conducting retreats for three decades. We have developed a best-in-class approach to working with couples. We can be as effective via Zoom as in person.