About Hazal Grey

Hazal Grey, MA, MFA, LMFT, RDT, REAT, RSME/T, is John’s wife and partner at Healing Couples Retreats.

Hazal received a Masters (MA) in Counseling Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies (CIIS), an internationally-recognized therapist training institution.

She has expertise in leading-edge methodologies for working with couples, including the Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT).

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Hazal also has extensive training in the trauma healing approaches of Sensorimotor Psychotherapy (SP) and Somatic Experiencing (SE).

She is also a certified therapist in the Neuro-Affective Relational Model (NARM) for healing developmental trauma and unresolved emotional childhood wounds that affect current relationships. She has been trained in the major approaches to couples therapy, including the Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy, and Relational Life Therapy (RLT).

Hazal’s clinical background includes working at Langley Porter Psychiatric Institute, the Center for Empowering Refugees, the Lomi Psychotherapy Clinic, the Jewish Free Clinic, the Mind Therapy Clinic, San Quentin Prison, and the Mindful Heart Center.

Additionally, Hazal received a Master of Fine Arts (MFA) in music, movement, and theater. Capitalizing on her diversified background, she earned specialized credentials as a Registered Drama Therapist (RDT), a Registered Expressive Arts Therapist (REAT), and a Registered Somatic Movement Educator and Therapist (RSME/T).

Also, having lived in five different countries on three continents, she is especially adept at working with cross-cultural dynamics and issues.


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Hazal’s Approach

Hazal’s approach is informed by current neuroscience and attachment research, as applied to how partners in intimate relationship can function securely and maintain lasting happiness and satisfaction.

She brings warmth, embodiment, and playfulness into her work.

Hazal’s approach produces rapid major positive shifts for over 90% of couples. Partners experience renewed good feelings, emotional reconnection, hopefulness, and confidence in moving forward together.

Her work with couples and individuals is based on the principle that we all want to be seen, heard and understood, especially by the ones we love the most. Whether we fight over small things, or big issues — if we become stuck, entangled or estranged from our partner, it impacts our entire quality of life.

With Hazal’s help, many clients discover how within minutes of getting in a fight — or even seconds — that what’s really driving their distress boils down to a some very basic yet unspoken questions, like: “Do I matter to you?” “If I hurt, do you care?” “Do you accept me just as I am?” or “Can I depend on you?”

The tools Hazal gives couples help them overcome reactive cycles and resolve issues, large and small. Instead of escalating into emotional upset or shutting down, with her guidance partners repair ruptures, speak from their hearts, and express what they need in effective ways that let them to feel loved, respected, and connected.


Feedback on Working with Hazal…

“I didn’t believe this retreat would work. I didn’t even want to participate. I only did it because I wanted to know how to deal with the divorce. I did not think anything could change in three days. Especially working virtually.

“I now am blown away to see such a big difference in how I feel. I am blown away to feel a huge difference in how we now relate with each other.

“I haven’t looked him in the eyes for ten years! Now I can. And I want to. I am hopeful. You brought the light into the tunnel. Into the abyss.

“The way you presented the material was excellent! Your patience and the way you handled the difficult moments, I give you a lot of credit for that.

“Thank you from the bottom of my heart.”

—A.W.



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Re-Wiring for Sustained Happiness and Love

Partners can struggle with relationships for a long time. Happiness seems almost impossible to sustain long term, as they find themselves reacting more and more over time. Little things turn into big fights, in ways that make no rational sense.

Resulting emotional wounds create walls between partners, as they fall under the spell of primitive parts of their brains that act out increasingly destructive patterns. Couples fall into states of fight, flight or freeze, even blowing up or shutting down.

Such upsets and reactive patterns are operate unconsciously. They get triggered without our permission or understanding, and they originate in our earliest wiring.

Early emotional attachment wiring can distort the way we see, think about, and act in our relationships for the rest of our lives.

To change such negative patterns we need to become more aware of how they operate and get the right tools to overcome them.

You are not doomed to repeat debilitating early attachment programming throughout your adult life. You can transform such old wiring with your partner today.

By understanding how our wiring shapes the way we unconsciously interact, we gain the possibility for new growth. Literally, we can create new neural pathways in our brains. This is called neuroplasticity, or the ability of the brain to change its wiring when it receives the right inputs.

And there is no stronger impact than partners can have on each other. This is shown in negative form in how they can trigger each other. But on the positive side of the same coin, this puts them in a unique position to rewire each other. If they know how. This is what Hazal teaches.

With compassionate and skillful guidance from Hazal, you will develop awareness of the underlying mechanics in how you engage in relating so that you can grow a healthy relationship. You will discover new tools for communicating that naturally promotes safety, connection, trust, and freedom. You will learn proven strategies to maximize shared happiness and to quickly repair the bumps in the road all couples encounter.


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