Hazal Grey, Couples Retreat Coach

Hazal Grey, MA, MFA, RDT, REAT, RSME/T, is John’s wife and partner at Healing Couples Retreats. She conducts intensive retreats and couples coaching virtually using Zoom.

Hazal currently offers two virtual retreat programs:

Here are the basic differences…

The Converted Group Retreat is an economical option that was adapted from our group program. You’ll get powerful relationship tools, along with structured exercises and coaching. It follows a set program, while addressing your specific issues, giving you the key tools to heal, reconnect, and build a solid, thriving relationship.

The Private Retreat gives you more in-depth customization to match your unique personalities, specific issues, and particular needs. It offers more hours of tailored coaching that can focus deeply on your distinct situation and issues. Hazal can also draw from a wider set of tools that can be exactly tailored to your individual needs.

Because Hazal now works with one couple at a time in our Converted Group Retreat, some clients describe it as getting the best of both worlds at an affordable cost. But if your situation is particularly distressing and complex, or if you simply have the resources available, we’d always suggest the Private Retreat.

See a complete description of each program below — along with information about Hazal’s training, background, and approach — plus testimonials from her clients.

For more info call Hazal at (707) 787-1967 or contact her now →

Virtual Private Retreats with Hazal

This section gives you all the details about Hazal’s Private Retreat program. You’ll find a description of her Converted Group Retreat program in the next section below.

In a virtual Private Retreat with Hazal, couples gain effective communication tools and get the keys to keeping a relationship strong, stable, and authentic.

Hazal helps partners to successfully repair past wounds, to establish a better emotional connection with each other, and to creatively collaborate as a team on all matters.

Additionally, partners develop the ability to be more vulnerable, transparent, and emotionally intimate with each other.

Working with Hazal, couples improve their ability to understand one another, solve issues, make good decisions, and personally grow together.

During your time with Hazal, you will get the help you need to effectively address and resolve in-depth your particular challenges and needs as a unique couple.

You will come away with new experiences, frameworks, tools, and a new set of custom-designed agreements to help consolidate the progress you make in a highly practical way that you can take home with you.

Additionally, follow-up sessions are available with Hazal to help you integrate, master, and apply the tools you acquired from a retreat in your daily lives together.

Loving, lasting change is possible.

WHAT HAPPENS IN A RETREAT? Read about what you will do in a retreat →

TESTIMONIALS: See the letters below on this page from couples to Hazal. Then read even more testimonials about her work →

FEEDBACK ON VIRTUAL RETREATS: What clients of virtual retreats say →

COST: The per-couple cost is $2350 per 6-hour day. A “standard day” consists of two 3-hour sessions, for 6 hours total.

TIMING & LENGTH: Standard retreats are between 2 and 4 standard days. With virtual retreats, Hazal can schedule sessions to meet your timing needs. You could do 6-hour days in a row or spread out a series of 3-hour sessions over a week or more.

CONTACT US: Hazal would be happy to discuss our retreats with you either by phone or email. Feel free to call her at (707) 787-1967 or contact Hazal here →

SIGN UP: After you and Hazal have set specific dates for your retreat, you can reserve those dates and book your retreat here →

Letter from a Virtual Private Retreat Client

“We originally signed up to come to do a group retreat but it got canceled due to the pandemic. We got an email saying that the retreat was converted to virtual.

“I first thought ‘I don’t want to do it virtually. I need the person right in front of me.’ I thought I wouldn’t get as much out of it doing it online.

“But now I can say that it was life-changing. Just the couple of days have really opened our eyes and our hearts. It was a very informative process.

“Doing it online was actually much better for us. To experience Hazal being 100% tuned in to us while in the comfort of our own home was amazing.

“We are very happy with the results and with Hazal. She has made a big difference in our life.”

—Katy H

How to Schedule a Retreat with Hazal

Another Letter from a Virtual Retreat Client

“Our online virtual retreat has been a very good experience. We have come a long way. Being in our own house helped a lot.

“It was easier to be more truthful and access emotions not having the therapist sit in the room. There is a little bit of distance which felt really good.

“I felt like we as a couple were a unit. It gives you a sense of impartiality which felt really safe to me.

“I didn’t know if I would like online work because I have never done it before. But it felt very good to have that distance between you and us.

“It felt good to be in my own space, use my bathroom, take a 10-minute nap if I need to during the break.

“The safety of our home made us more open to the process which went deep and was healing for us.”

—Susan C

Hazal’s Converted Group Retreats

For years Hazal and John have jointly led 3-day Group Retreats. These have been successful beyond all client expectations, as directly stated by a majority of the couples who attended. You can see this in our many testimonials.

During the COVID-19 pandemic, we are conducting all retreats virtually. The virtual Private Retreats are just as effective as our in-person work, if not more so.

But Group Retreats suffer if done virtually, so we are not conducting groups at this time. However, the Group Retreat program itself is powerful. So, Hazal wanted to continue conducting it… but with just one couple at a time!

Thus during this pandemic, you have an opportunity to work with Hazal privately as a couple, for the same cost you’d normally pay to attend a group of eight or more couples.

The program consists of six 3-hour segments. For two of those hours, you work with Hazal. The third hour is a structured exercise for you and your partner.

While Hazal often conducts this program over three straight 6-hour days, you can also spread your sessions out over several more days.

TESTIMONIALS: Read the feedback on our Group Retreat program →

COST: The per-couple cost is $2950 total for the entire program.

TIMING & LENGTH: The program is 3 standard days long. With virtual retreats, Hazal can schedule sessions to meet your timing needs. You could do three 6-hour days in a row or spread out your sessions over a week or more.

CONTACT US: Hazal would be happy to discuss our retreats with you either by phone or email. Feel free to call her at (707) 787-1967 or contact Hazal here →

SIGN UP: After you and Hazal have set specific dates for your retreat, you can reserve those dates and book your retreat here →

ADD-ON DAYS: For extra depth, you can add one or more Private Retreat days onto the end of your Converted Group Retreat program.

Letter from a Converted Group Retreat Client

“I was very skeptical of this whole retreat process. It was a lot of money. Was it going to be worth it?

“But I now see that it was totally worth it. I didn’t know that you were going to have so much good information. It was very beneficial.

“I learned a lot about my wife that I didn’t know. And I learned how to really listen.

“And she is telling me she loves me, after so many years.

“I am thankful we had this opportunity to learn new ways to communicate. To learn new ways to address triggers and conflicts.

“I know we will stumble again. But now I feel confident that we can work through whatever comes up.”

—Michael R

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Hazal’s Background and Training

Hazal received a Masters (MA) in Counseling Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies (CIIS), an internationally-recognized therapy training institution.

She has extensive training in current leading-edge methodologies including the Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT) and the trauma healing methods of Sensorimotor Psychotherapy (SP) and Somatic Experiencing (SE). Hazal is also a certified therapist in the Neuro-Affective Relational Model (NARM) for healing developmental trauma and unresolved emotional childhood wounds that affect current relationships.

Hazal’s clinical background includes working at Langley Porter Psychiatric Institute, at the Center for Empowering Refugees, at the Lomi Psychotherapy Clinic, at the Jewish Free Clinic, at the Mind Therapy Clinic, at San Quentin Prison, and at the Mindful Heart Center.

Additionally, Hazal received a Master of Fine Arts (MFA) in music, movement, and theater. Capitalizing on her diversified background, she earned specialized credentials as a Registered Drama Therapist (RDT), a Registered Expressive Arts Therapist (REAT), and a Registered Somatic Movement Educator and Therapist (RSME/T).

In addition to her work with couples, Hazal also excels at working with individuals with relationship issues. Having lived in five different countries on three continents, she is especially adept at working with cross-cultural dynamics and issues.

Hazal’s Approach

Hazal’s approach is informed by current neuroscience and attachment research as applied to how partners in intimate relationships can function securely and sustain lasting happiness and satisfaction. Hazal has extensive training in expressive arts and drama therapy. She brings warmth, embodiment, and playfulness into her work.

Hazal’s approach produces rapid major positive shifts for over 90% of couples. Partners experience renewed good feelings, emotional reconnection, hopefulness, and confidence in moving forward together.

Her work with couples and individuals is based on the principle that we all want to be seen, heard and understood, especially by the ones we love the most. Whether we fight over small things, or big issues — if we become stuck, entangled or estranged from our partner, it impacts our entire quality of life.

With Hazal’s help, many clients discover how within minutes of getting in a fight — or even seconds — that what’s really driving their distress boils down to a some very basic yet unspoken questions, like: “Do I matter to you?” “If I hurt, do you care?” “Do you accept me just as I am?” or “Can I depend on you?”

The tools Hazal gives couples enable them to overcome reactive cycles and resolve issues, both large and small. Instead of escalating into states of emotional upset or shutting down, with her guidance partners learn to repair ruptures, speak from their hearts, and express what they need in effective ways that let them to feel loved, respected and connected.

For more info call Hazal at (707) 787-1967 or contact her now →

Letter from a Private Retreat Client

“My husband and I miserably lived in a ‘hole’ for many years. Individual and couples therapy did nothing but give us more of a chance to blame and label each other. I was desperate for an intensive and in depth solution.

“I researched and telephone interviewed several options. When I spoke with John Grey on the phone, I knew he was the one. He was booked out for a couple months and I was desperate for an earlier date. He suggested Hazal, and reassured me that she could help us.

“As we did our prep work, we both grew excited knowing our relationship would be forever changed for the better.

“My excitement turned to nervous anxiety a few hours before the first session. Hazal quickly made us both feel at ease. She quietly allowed us to each blame the other for about 15 minutes and then we stopped as she began to work her magic. The first three hours went by so easily as we began to learn a new productive and loving way of communicating. My tears overflowed.

“Over the course of the next two days, our old ways had flipped for the better and for the first time in years, I trust and feel protected by my husband. I even crave him sexually which I haven’t done in I don’t know how long.

“I looked at Hazal several times throughout our few days and told her, ‘Hazal you are SO GOOD.’ She is a master of teaching change and how to express true fears and feelings. Her voice and mannerisms are so soothing. Her technique and exercises are eye opening.

“My husband and I are now feeling like two different people with a new loving and healthy relationship. Our children, employees, friends, and even pets are for sure going to notice the huge difference in us!!”

—Kim T

Re-Wiring for Sustained Happiness and Love

Partners can struggle with relationships for a long time. Happiness seems almost impossible to sustain long term, as they find themselves reacting more and more over time. Little things turn into big fights, in ways that make no rational sense.

Resulting emotional wounds create walls between partners, as they fall under the spell of primitive parts of their brains that act out increasingly destructive patterns. Couples fall into states of fight, flight or freeze, even blowing up or shutting down.


Such upsets and reactive patterns are operate unconsciously. They get triggered without our permission or understanding, and they originate in our earliest wiring.

Early emotional attachment wiring can distort the way we see, think about, and act in our relationships for the rest of our lives.

The only way to upgrade such limiting patterns is to consciously get aware of how they operate and acquire new tools to overcome them.

You are not doomed to repeat debilitating early attachment patterns throughout your life. You do have the power to transform such old wiring with your partner today, if you know how.

By understanding how our wiring shapes the way we unconsciously interact, we gain the possibility for new growth. Literally, we can create new neural pathways in our brains. This is called neuroplasticity, or the ability of the brain to change its wiring when it receives the right inputs.

With compassionate and skillful guidance from Hazal, you will develop awareness of the underlying mechanics in how you engage in relating so that you can grow a healthy relationship. You will discover new tools for communicating that naturally promotes safety, connection, trust, and freedom. You will learn proven strategies to maximize shared happiness and to quickly repair the bumps in the road all couples encounter.

For more info call Hazal at (707) 787-1967 or contact her now →

Another Letter from a Couple

“Dear Hazal,

“Allow us to express our gratitude for helping us with what matters the most in our lives. We are holding the wisdom you’ve shared with us very close to our hearts, as it has been guiding us.

“We have been very supportive of each other and have effectively put in practice your tools. Many things have happened as a result. We realize our partner is there to support us. We find what we need in our partner.

“We are quite surprised by how deep your teachings have touched us, allowing us to feel safe together, calming our fears at the very moment in which they are triggered — or as soon as it becomes possible.

“A big, sincere ‘Thank You!'”

—H and M

More Feedback from Past Clients

“Hazal was instrumental to healing our marriage. Her guidance helped both of us get deeply in touch with our core feelings. She had a great healing energy and strong instinct about each of our personalities and needs. Thank you so much for giving us renewed connection in our marriage.”

“My wife and I have tried multiple marriage therapists in our 14 years of marriage. Hazal has been the BEST by far. She was the most intuitive and positive healing therapist I’ve ever encountered in my life. I now feel truly healed from years of hurt, and I now feel like we have real, practical, holistic solutions to use in our day-to-day marriage problems. I highly recommend Hazal.”

“Our private retreat with Hazal was amazing. I was skeptical at first, and my partner was actually ready to cancel the retreat! But we are both so glad we came because now we’re feeling hopeful again and back in love with each other. And we have learned the tools to stay connected. This has changed how we view each other, and I even experienced a shift in me in how I view myself, which is so positive.”

“Working with Hazal was a gift. She has the ability to intuitively translate and understand different modes of information access and processing.”

“Hazal, thank you so much for your guidance and support. Our communication and understanding of each other are so much better. We are so much calmer and present with each other. We can talk about things we could never address before. I can finally speak what is in my heart and be real with my partner.”

river near couples retreat“Hazal’s use of interactive, engaging and hands on techniques to help couples center and connect in a mindful way provide a solid foundation upon which to repair and build a strong, stable relationship.”

“More than I expected. Nice balance between presentation, discussion and couples exercises. From general marital preventative maintenance to learning how to deal with major marital distresses, this marriage retreat is highly recommended.”

“We were looking for ways out of our negative cycle — ways to move toward each other in the face of conflict — and this retreat gave us those. Hazal’s very professional, calm and welcoming demeanor, comfort and ease with us as couples, all helped me feel comfortable in finding a way through what would otherwise have been tough territory.”

“I was really skeptical about the retreat and didn’t want to attend. However, within the first five minutes, I knew we were in the right place. I now have hope for our marriage, our future, and it’s all because I have the tools and the step-by-step process to repair and prevent upsets. I highly recommend this retreat to couples that have tried everything and failed.”

“Our retreat proved to be an immensely beautiful experience, which provided very positive tools to repair crucial aspects of our relationship — through a sensible and thorough method. Hazal is an exceptional professional. We would recommend this retreat to any couple that needs guidance.”

“This exceeded all expectations. I didn’t expect to go home with such common sense practical tools to help our relationship. Hazal was amazing! The body of work, put together with a warm style was effective and compelling. I’m so happy to have done this and fully optimistic about our use of the techniques.”

“I highly recommend this retreat with Hazal. I was hesitant to come, believing there was no hope! But on day two of the retreat I had a significant break-through. Both my husband and I agree that we are now hopeful and excited for the future of our marriage.”

“Healing Couples Retreats proved to be an immensely beautiful experience, which provided very positive tools to repair crucial aspects of our relationship — through a sensible and thorough method. Hazal is an exceptional professional. We would recommend this retreat to any couple that needs guidance.”

“Just leaving a weekend group retreat with Hazal at Healing Couples Retreats with a renewed sense of positivity and optimism. We have specific tools and techniques to help us repair our communication.”

“At first I was hesitant about attending a group session. But my experience was very positive. I ended up learning so much more in a group. I realized the other couples are struggling with the same things… Learning new skills for repair and how to discuss real feelings…. I am so thankful for these new tools.”

“The retreat provided tools and resources that restored our relationship. It provided hope to us that we can both be happy and secure with each other. We strongly recommend that any couple that wishes to improve their home life consider this retreat.”

“In all honesty, I didn’t know what to expect, and didn’t think our issues could be resolved in a group setting in just three days. However, this weekend went way above my expectations. John and Hazal both guided us in a very intuitive flow, and we came away with a much better understanding of what is really going on, and give us some practical tools to keep working on this. Thank you both for your wisdom and guidance. You both have a unique approach which compliments perfectly. Thank you!”

“I thought the content of this retreat was far superior to any other book or therapy I’ve experienced. Hazal and John’s calm, empathetic, and intellectual approach and energy created a safe environment for open communication. I’m grateful to have had the opportunity; my wife and I are very optimistic about our future together. Thank you for your wisdom!”

“Healing Couples Retreats allowed me to see into my spouse’s eyes and soul in a way I had forgotten how to do. It gave us both new tools and techniques to use this vulnerable insight in a positive, constructive way.”

“This retreat was soul food for our relationship!! From the simple way to understand attachment and how it affects couples to the tools we learned to repair, Hazal give hope infinite! I came in mad, hurt and not liking my partner. Doubtful a weekend would change much…. How wrong I was! I see the man I loved and a new person to care for! Thank you for the love medicine.”

For more info call Hazal at (707) 787-1967 or contact her now →

Deluxe 2-on-2 Private Retreats with Hazal & John

Working with both John and Hazal in a Deluxe 2-on-2 Private Retreat provides you with a uniquely powerful and transformative experience.

John and Hazal’s combined skill sets, along with their ability as a couple to represent both genders, offers you unparalleled guidance to achieve positive changes.

Though most work is done with both partners together, given the versatility of the 2-on-2 format, Hazal and John can also provide help to each partner individually as needed.

Retreats are generally 6 hours a day, each day comprised of two 3-hour sessions with a 90 minute lunch break in between. Retreat lengths can vary from 2-days to 4-days.

COST: The per-couple cost is $4900 per day for a Deluxe 2-on-2 Private Retreat. 2-day to 4-day retreats are available.

DATES & TIMING: As we are conducting retreats online via Zoom, you have additional flexibility in scheduling. You can spread sessions out over a span of a week or more, even skip days between sessions. Contact us to set up dates.

CONTACT US: We would be happy to discuss setting up a 2-on-2 Deluxe Retreat with you. Feel free to contact us with any questions you have.