We highly recommend follow-up online coaching sessions in order to master the new tools, rules and understandings you acquired during your intensive retreat.
Just like weekly lessons in sports, music, language or any other skill will enable mastery, weekly coaching sessions will enable you to practice and integrate relationship skills into your daily life.
Traditional couples therapy is also weekly, but is usually focused on putting out the “fire-of-the-week” which often limits its effectiveness. In our tool-based coaching approach, we coach you to master your tools and rules to work though issues and stay on track.
Hazal Selçuk — Couples Retreat & Follow-Up Coach
Follow-up coaching at Healing Couples Retreats is provided by John’s partner, Hazal Selçuk.
Hazal has a MA in Counseling Psychology and a Master of Fine Arts (MFA). She is an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, a Registered Somatic Movement Educator and a Registered Somatic Movement Therapist.
All group retreats at Healing Couples Retreats are co-lead by Hazal and John. As well, Hazal gives private marriage retreats on her own. And occasionally she and John conduct special two-on-two private retreats.
Hazal received her MA in Counseling Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies (CIIS). She also has extensive training in the Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT). Additionally, Hazal has in-depth training in both Drama Therapy and Expressive Arts Therapy, and is in the process of completing her requirements to be a Registered Drama Therapist and Registered Expressive Arts Therapist.
Having a wide range of experience, her background includes working at Langley Porter Psychiatric Institute, at the Center for Empowering Refugees, and at San Quentin Prison. In addition to her private practice as a relationship coach and couples retreat leader, Hazal works at the Lomi Psychotherapy Clinic in Sonoma County as an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist.
Hazal’s approach is informed by current neuroscience and attachment research as applied to how couples can function securely and sustain lasting satisfaction. She brings warmth, embodiment, and playfulness into her work. Read more about Hazal →
Recommended Follow-Up Protocols
Usually, the optimal way to schedule follow-up coaching is once-per-week for the first two or three months after a retreat. Generally by that point you space the sessions out to every-other-week and once-per-month.
The typical session length is 1.5 hours. Though at first it might be closer to 2 hours, depending on the couple of course. And if there is a significantly distressing or complex situation to work though, a session length may extend slightly longer.
In any case, we do recommend using follow-up coaching right away after experiencing an intensive retreat for best results. That said, other arrangements can be made, of course.
Many couples try an “as-needed” basis, seeking coaching when there is a big fire to put out. Be aware that this is an ineffective mode of work.
We are here to help you on any basis you wish. However, know that the “as-needed” approach gets mixed results, and misses the opportunity to integrate what you learned during the retreat into a sustained transformation back home.
We have heard many clients report that they wished they had not put off regular weekly sessions following their retreat. Instead, due to the busy nature of their lives, they let things slide before they did anything.
Your own milage may vary, of course. Much depends on the nature of the stressors you encounter, plus how deeply you were able to integrate your new tools and rules during the retreat itself. Read more →
Loving, lasting change is possible.