We highly recommend follow-up online coaching sessions in order to master the new tools, rules and understandings you acquired during your intensive retreat.
Just like weekly lessons in sports, music, language or any other skill will enable mastery, weekly coaching sessions will enable you to practice and integrate relationship skills into your daily life.
Traditional couples therapy is also weekly, but is usually focused on putting out the “fire-of-the-week” which often limits its effectiveness. In our tool-based coaching approach, we coach you to master your tools and rules to work though issues and stay on track.
Hazal Selçuk — Couples Retreat & Follow-Up Coach
Follow-up coaching at Healing Couples Retreats is provided by Hazal Selçuk, MA, MFA, AMFT (Associate Marriage and Family Therapist).
Hazal co-leads all of our Group Retreats. She conducts Private Retreats on her own, as well as being joined by John in offering select, special two-on-two Private Retreats.
Hazal received her MA in Counseling Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies (CIIS). She has training in the Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT).
Having a wide range of experience, her background includes working at Langley Porter Psychiatric Institute. In addition to her private practice as a relationship coach, Hazal works at the Lomi Psychotherapy Clinic in Sonoma County as an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist.
Hazal’s approach is informed by current neuroscience and attachment research as applied to how couples can function securely and sustain lasting satisfaction.
Hazal has extensive training in expressive arts and drama therapy. She brings warmth, embodiment, and playfulness into her work. Read more about Hazal →
Recommended Follow-Up Protocols
Usually, the optimal way to schedule follow-up coaching is once-per-week for the first two or three months after a retreat. Generally by that point you space the sessions out to every-other-week and once-per-month.
The typical session length is 1.5 hours. Though at first it might be closer to 2 hours, depending on the couple of course. And if there is a significantly distressing or complex situation to work though, a session length may extend slightly longer.
In any case, we do recommend using follow-up coaching right away after experiencing an intensive retreat for best results. That said, other arrangements can be made, of course.
Many couples try an “as-needed” basis, seeking coaching when there is a big fire to put out. Be aware that this is an ineffective mode of work.
We are here to help you on any basis you wish. However, know that the “as-needed” approach gets mixed results, and misses the opportunity to integrate what you learned during the retreat into a sustained transformation back home.
We have heard many clients report that they wished they had not put off regular weekly sessions following their retreat. Instead, due to the busy nature of their lives, they let things slide before they did anything.
Your own milage may vary, of course. Much depends on the nature of the stressors you encounter, plus how deeply you were able to integrate your new tools and rules during the retreat itself. Read more →
Loving, lasting change is possible.