Details About Our Marriage Retreats

Below are the costs and location of our marriage retreats in California, plus our calendar of available dates. And if you have not yet read it, here’s our introduction to marriage retreats »

Couples Retreat Location in California

Our California couples retreat location is in the northern part of the San Francisco Bay Area, specifically in Sonoma County, in the friendly small town of Sebastopol. Sonoma County is one of the premiere grape-growing areas in the world. The landscape here is a breathtaking patchwork of vineyards spread across gentle hills, offering one of the most beautiful terrains in California.

There are many things to see and do while you have your retreat in this part of California. The activities and sights will take you from serene redwood forests, to scenic rivers, out to expansive beaches and the rocky coast of the Pacific Ocean. Add top quality restaurants, the charm of small towns set amidst wineries — and you can easily feel like you’re in Tuscany! For a couples retreat location, you can’t find a more charming spot!

We offer two types of retreats: a Private Retreat where just you and your partner work with John, and a Group Retreat that you share with other couples. Read on for the details…

Private Retreat for Individual Couples

vineyard near california couples retreat locationYou and your partner work individually with John. Private Retreats are usually 3 or 4 days in length, as this provides time to resolve issues and integrate the new tools you learn into how you’ll interact once you are back home. We recommend a 4-day length if you are under the distress of past affairs, traumas, or significant emotional wounds; if someone’s deeply ambivalent about staying married; or if you have multiple significant issues.

You can also elect to have a 5-day length if you can afford spending the time, if you have particularly difficult and intractable issues to resolve, or if you simply want to take more time for healing and reconnection. For couples not in distress, but looking for a tuneup or followup retreat, a 2-day length may be sufficient, but please check this with us first before booking this shortened retreat.

A Private Retreat can be over a weekend or during the week. Hours are from 10:30 am to around 6:00 pm, with a good hour and a half lunch break. You may also have a bit of optional work to do outside of sessions. And there is powerful preparatory work that many couples say shifts things in a positive direction even before you get to your retreat.

Many couples who have the need, time, resources, or interest choose to take a length of 4 days in duration. The added length of time helps you achieve deeper results in acquiring new, positive communication tools. The added time can also help you more deeply heal old emotional wounds and shift into a place of trust and re-connection.

The Private Retreat gives couples a rare level of personal coaching and offers you a profound depth of positive transformation and change. The private format is by far in the highest demand by couples who approach us, who want to take significant steps to make meaningful improvements in their relationships.

COST: The per-couple cost is $5850 for the standard 3-day Private Retreat. Longer 4- or 5-day retreats are an additional $1950 per day. Travel, meals and accommodations not included.

DATES: You can arrange a Private Retreat on a weekend or during the week, whichever works best for you. Available throughout the year. Below, you will find our calendar of available dates.

CONTACT US: We would be happy to discuss our Private Retreat with you either by phone or email. Feel free to contact us with any questions you have »

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ACCOMMODATIONS: We have an online list of recommended places to stay. Having your couples retreat location in our part of California is a special joy. Here, you can choose between a wide variety of charming cottages, hotels, B&B’s and inns.

Next Steps to Book a Private Retreat

Retreat Schedule Calendar

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Retreats are usually booked a few months in advance. This is despite a sense of urgency many have when they contact us. While seeming long to wait, we have found most couples calm down and focus on relationship improvement once they book a retreat. There are several preparatory tasks to do before arrival, and couples report how these can start a process of better mutual understanding and improved communication.

That said, you can ask to be put on our waiting list for openings due to cancellations. And know that we also can refer you to a respected colleague, who could be available soon.

Shared Small Group Retreat

rocky coast near retreatJohn offers small Group Retreats. In this format, you and your partner join other couples and share a retreat together. The group size is kept small enough to enable you to receive personal coaching and individual focus.

People often ask how the Private Retreat above compares with our Group Retreat, and what is more appropriate for them. The basic answer is that it all depends on your needs and goals. Even though John keeps the group size smaller than the typical group retreat program, and you will receive individual attention, the private work offers the most appropriate level of help for couples suffering significant distress or stickiness, and who want to address major issues.

If you are in significant distress you will benefit more from in-depth, individually tailored coaching available only in a Private Retreat. That said, we have been told many times how our Group Retreat turned around marriages on the verge of divorce. Some couples who need more in-depth coaching arrange to stay after a group for a full-day private session with John, or come back at a later date for a Private Retreat.

COST: The per-couple cost is $2300. Travel, meals, accommodations not included.

DATES: The next Group Retreat is being scheduled for the weekend before Valentines Day, Feb 10 – 12, 2017. It will start on Friday at noon and end on Sunday at 4:00 PM. To join this group, contact us here.

CONTACT US: If you want to ask questions about our Group Retreats, contact us here.

ACCOMMODATIONS: We have an online list of recommended places to stay. Having your couples retreat location in our part of California is a special joy. Here, you can choose between a wide variety of charming cottages, hotels, B&B’s and inns.

Next Steps to Join a Group Retreat

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