Letters from Past Retreat Clients

Here are testimonials about Dr. John Grey from couples he has coached. These are excerpts from unsolicited client letters sent to John by various couples who attended his retreat program. Most of these testimonials are from couples who attended a private retreat with John.


“You saved our relationship. We really couldn’t have done it without you. We were going down into a deep hole. We were stuck and could not have come through it without your help. As far as we are concerned, you saved the relationship. So much so, that we’ve been giving your book as wedding presents. And if we could afford it, we would give your retreat to all couples we love. Your work is invaluable.”

O and S, Mediator / Lawyer


“We were truly at a crossroad in our marriage. You gave us the tools we needed to communicate effectively, to have an understanding and appreciation for each others thoughts, personalities and needs. Through using these tools we have been able to heal old wounds and begin laying the foundation for a new, strong and healthy marriage. The knowledge you gave us is beyond words. Not only have we begun to understand our individual underlying fears and desires (and how to communicate them with each other), we are very excited to start applying this information to the way in which we communicate with and nurture our children.”

B and A, Executive / Sales Rep


“Your retreat greatly improved our marriage. We were anxious when we got there. But we quickly became comfortable in your presence. You showed us how to resolve issues which had been threatening our stability as a couple. You taught us tools we continue to use over the year since our retreat with you. This has helped us increase happiness, and kept us from falling back into old traps. We are very grateful.”

A and C, Construction Engineer / Educator


“Thank you so much for giving us so many tools to improve our relationship. When we came to you we were in a stalemate. It seemed that there was no way to communicate. We got preoccupied by being busy and we didn’t even make time to try anymore. After the retreat with you, we did not only learn to open up communication again. We found ourselves sharing a whole new honeymoon all over again!”

J and V, Medical Administrator / Doctor


“Our retreat was utterly extraordinary, simply magnificent. John is a superbly skilled, wise, authentic, supportive guide. His program is magnificently suited to genuine transformation. The shifts we experienced, the understanding that emerged, and the capacities that we steadily and rapidly built, all went far beyond our wildest expectations of what could happen between two severely wounded, alienated people in a few days. What did happen was an undeniable breakthrough. It was facilitated by John’s incomparable presence, knowledge, ability to tune in to each of us and support us to bring forward our best. The intensive format worked amazingly well at safely revealing and healing toxic patterns. The tools we were given are priceless, elegant, simple, and they really work. The schedule, the homework, the containment, the safety, and the setting were all so supportive each step along the way. Our hearts are again open to each other; it feels like a miracle, but it’s very grounded and real. I feel as if I’ve found my dearest friend again, still alive and breathing, and still in love with me, thank God. Moreover, I also regained access to my own sense of wholeness. I have opened up in ways I’ve been yearning for. This retreat has been a total blessing on every level. Thank you.”

D and T, Therapist / Coach


“We did not know what to expect at your retreat, whether it would be ineffective like counseling had been, or overbearing like on TV talk shows. What we found was compassionate, authentic and supportive, a coach that could mentor us in new tools and show us ways out of the box we were stuck in. It was like a visit with the wise friend we always wish we had, who could help us through our rough spots back to the love we originally shared.”

D and M, Executive / Nurse


“We were stuck in a place where we fought over stupid things. I felt so resentful that intimacy had long ago stopped. We could be civil, but we felt the happiness we used to have was lost. Your retreat helped us move through some big blocks, understand new things, and heal issues we couldn’t talk about. I discovered things about him I didn’t know even after a decade of marriage! Deep, wonderful things. It’s like I found the great guy I originally met, only more so.”

L and R, Mother / Hall of Fame Athlete


“I thank you from the bottom of my heart for the great help you offered us. We felt like we were on a real honeymoon, after we left our retreat with you. And we feel still blissfuly happy, being able to connect in different ways, with still many things to explore. Somehow I still feel as if a miracle had happened in a big way with you as a wonderful and dedicated guide. Once again I want to express my deep gratitude for your fantastic help! Amazing things you taught us, and so many helpful tools. We are in an unbelievable different mood. No longer bickering or fighting! Instead we experience enjoyment, happiness and thankfulness for the deep connection and love we found again.”

H and C, Director / Musician


“The retreat opened doors for us to renew the spark. We had grown complacent. We are now growing more happy and passionate with each day. The same outside stresses are still there in our lives, children and work. But the tools you gave us help us to check in with each other on a daily basis, in ways that open our hearts to each other and refresh our love for each other. Thank you so much for this gift!”

J and R, Architect / Consultant


“We greatly appreciate all your work with us in our retreat with you. We both learned a great deal. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted now that I don’t have a secret sadness/loneliness. I also now know that my partner really cares. You have a great gift – thank you for all your work with us. You helped us to really understand ourselves and each other – and to put value in our connection and relationship.”

G and L, Entrepeneur / Mother


“The retreat was a great experience, with excellent organization and materials. Our retreat is a turning point in our relationship. It will be remembered as the place we got the tools to move into a loving and nurturing relationship. And given where we were when we got there, I’d say this… Even if a partner thinks they might not want to go to a couples retreat, how could you possibly go wrong in going?”

J and K, Sales / Real Estate


“It’s been months since our retreat with you. As the weeks have passed I’ve thought about emailing you to say once again ‘Thank You!’ The work we did during our retreat has filtered every aspect of our lives even with friends and extended family. Our love for each other has continued to become even more respectful, caring, and loving. I’m astounded by how much that weekend changed our dynamics, our triggers, our issues. I just can’t put into words what this has meant to us. My husband has become the partner I always wanted to be with and I think I have become the partner he has always wanted to share his life with. I’m in such gratitude of your work!”

L and M, Realtor / Executive


“This is our one year anniversary of renewed happiness and wedded bliss, thanks to our couples retreat with you. Before we came, we fought all the time and lacked any intimacy. We had nothing in common outside of our children and work. And we couldn’t go on like that. You taught us how to understand each other and most importantly how to communicate with each other. Your help last year transformed our relationship. We have never been happier with each other. We’ve learned to love and laugh again. We cannot thank you enough.”

W and M, CPA / CPA


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